Is it normal to not be attracted to your boyfriend?

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My boyfriend and I just started dating. He's one of the smartest people I have ever met. This guy is Harvard material as in he's the best at everything when it comes to Academics. He's even pursuing to go there. He's funny and sweet, but unattractive and slightly awkward.

Bottom line: He's not the best looking guy. I think he can be handsome if he changed a few things about his appearance. He's very caring and kind. Everything I could ask for in a man, but I'm not attracted to him. Will this sabotage our relationship? Will my shallow feelings manifest? How can I stop focusing on his appearance?

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  • dirtytalk
    11 years ago

    so....... u dont put his pee pee in your va jay jay?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    The question both answers and mocks the person asking it.

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  • Gumball
    11 years ago

    His personally and traits will eventually win you over. Heck, beauty is temporary. You'll both be sagging in the future. His intelligence is what's possibly going to benefit both of you. Plus, you'd rather have attraction stem from personality and skills anyways. Superficiality, physical appearance are skin deep. Unless he is vying for a modelling career, good luck with that.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    So how did he get you in the beginning if no physical attraction? Did he amaze you with his intellect or personality?
    *turbo farts**

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I don't think there's anything wrong with what you're doing, I also don't think people who want for someone attractive are necessarily shallow either. You're shallow if appearance is the most important thing or one of, but physical attraction is just a piece of the full package. Sometimes you just can't force it, I know I've had times where I felt I would be good with someone but there was just something not there, it would have made me very uncomfortable to try and not fair to the other person.

    In your case it sounds like you're pretty happy with the way things are going, people may give you shit about it but fuck them anyway. Back in high school I dated a guy who wasn't very conventionally attractive but he was a bloody genius and I found myself very attracted to him. Had to deal with people making their rude little comments all the time about how nice I am to date someone ugly... x.x People are weird, yo.

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  • Flaze
    11 years ago

    I can't answer your question on whether it's normal or not to be attracted to your boyfriend, your question should be rephrased to "am i shallow in thinking my boyfriend is unattractive"

    there's heaps of unattractive guys out there, but most of them have something that makes up for it, you found your catch. you should give him a shot, he might even be better than someone you're attracted to

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