Is it normal to not be attracted to anyone?

I have never had an attraction to anyone, but I'm in love with the thought of being in love. Sometimes I'll look at girls and think they're attractive, and boys as well, but the thought of being with them in a relationship just doesn't appeal to me. I want the feeling of a relationship, like cuddling and having someone to be there for you, but I'm just not attracted to anyone like that. Is it normal?

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70% Normal
Based on 27 votes (19 yes)
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  • Springfurmich

    totally normal. it just depends on your preferences. i believe you are unaware of what type of people you are attracted to. explore yourself and understand what kind of women and men you like. is there a special trait which makes them more attractive even though they are average looking? like being extremely kind, motherly, sadistic, submissive etc etc. if you ever fell in love with a fictional character but you don't know why, understand which qualities they had.

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  • volibear96

    For the record I've been in 5 serious relationships, and never thought any of them were physically attracting even though people would have clarified them as "gorgeously hot". I just never connected with them. Now I have a boyfriend who funny enough, is a bit chubby and SLIGHTLY a step or two away from the social norms of hot but for some reason over every other guy I've been with combined, I feel extremely physically and emotionally attracted to him. so its just a matter of getting to know them. Youl find your someone.

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  • breathingtree

    It happens but I wouldn't say that most people experience it. When I was young I went through something similar but I outgrew it by my early 20s. In my case, it was engulfment fears. That's when you start off interested in someone but the idea of committing to a relationship turns you off because you feel as though you won't be able to maintain your boundaries... that their needs will overtake yours and you'll be trapped in a relationship you don't want to be in. I outgrew those feelings once I began to feel confident I could maintain my boundaries in any relationship.

    Have you had any bad experiences in the past with someone close to you who didn't respect your boundaries, requiring more from you than you were able to give them? Even parents or siblings can be like this, so it doesn't necessarily have to be a past boyfriend or girlfriend.

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  • thegypsysailor

    It doesn't sound normal to me. Not wrong for you, perhaps, but definitely not the norm.

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  • Short4Words

    I guess. But if I were you i'd take more time to get to know people because I thought everyone sucked too.

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