Is it normal to not be able to tell someone how i feel

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I know it's normal to be afraid to speak up about your feelings but I'm not ashamed of the way I feel for a certain person.

I need to tell this person how I feel and I've tried to bring it up so many times but I just clam up and can't find my words.

I do find it difficult to communicate my feelings generally. I fear people being too close and being able to hurt me.

The problem is, it's getting to a stage where I'm desperate to tell them and am contemplating doing it via email, which I absolutely don't want to do. We're both adults and talk about everything else.

So my question: is it normal to not be able to say something you desperately want to? Is it just a confidence thing? Does anyone have any tips on how to overcome clamming up and be able to speak out? I feel so stupid for not being able to say "I like you"

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  • Pisslan616
    12 years ago

    I didn't tell a girl that I fancied her and she ended going out with 2 of my best friends (not at the same time). That really sucked.

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  • babysharkdodo
    12 years ago

    don't worry about it as much. i know from experience that not telling the person sucks more than if they reject you afterward. for example i have a brother that is two years older than me. He has had the same best friend since i was in the third grade. i knew even at that young age that i liked this boy very much. then we got to high scholl and i figured it was time to tell him.... but like you i would always choke, plus all the girls he said he was into in high school were white and skinny and blonde. i happen to be latina and chunky with that signiture thick black hair. i never did tell him how i feel and im in love with him. to this day i regret not telling him. especially since now he is engagged and im supposed to be the maid of honor for his skinny white bride. just tell him how you feel. the more nervous you are the more real it is. good luck baby you are in my prayers !!!!!!!
    <3

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  • dontgiveup:)
    12 years ago

    Just tell the person how you feel. If you don't do it now, you'll regret it later.

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  • Hayleyjxx
    12 years ago

    We all fear rejection. Being rejected is never nice especially if you really like the person. Although you're afraid of expressing your feelings, you can't go your whole life lonely because you're afraid. If it doesn't go the way you want it then you learn from your mistakes and move on. It's not the end if the world. You're unhappy now anyway so you might aswell give a go. Do what makes you happy and only ever regret the things in life you don't do. There's nothing worse than looking back and think "what if"

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    depends on what your trying to say?

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