Is it normal to not be able to leave your bf even if hes a cheater?

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My boyfriend and i have been going out for a little over 2 1/2 years, and we live together. We have a great relationship, we dont fight often, and love eachother very much. But i am constantly catching him doing stuff behind my back.

It started out small with just text flirting with other girls, then emailing girls at school, but more recently i found out he signed up for internet sites ie. AdultFriendFinder and seek bang, and i also caught him responding to craigslist postings. I told him that i caught him and we talked long about everything, he said he would stop and he could never cheat on me, it was just the thrill. He also said he would do anything to regain my trust.

Now it has been two weeks since this talk we had, ive still been hurt and wanted to see if he really changed, so i posted a fake ad on craigslist, and he responded to it. After i told him it was really me he cried and basically gave me the same i love you, need you, dont leave me, i would never cheat speech. I have no trust for him anymore and i know leaving is the rivht thing, but its so hard for me to pack up and leave. Is it normal to stay with someone when you know they will never change?

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  • korn3654
    13 years ago

    He's banging other chicks like a screen door in a tornado

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago

    Never sell yourself cheap, and yeah you'll get a better guy.

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  • ComeFlyWithMe
    13 years ago

    I think it's normal. You've become attached to and used to life with him for the past few years so of course it's going to be hard to just up and leave suddenly. Even though it will hurt to break up with him, think about how much he's already hurt you, the lack of trust, and how much it will hurt you if he actually cheats (which seems highly likely). There seems to be no happy future with this guy so why pursue the relationship if it's not going anywhere? Break up with him now before you get deeper into the relationship. The sooner you do it the easier it will be. I don't know if you're old enough for this, but perhaps you could try a relationship counselor and see if the situation improves first before deciding to break up.

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