Is it normal to not attract the ones you genuinely like because...

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I have recently discovered that my "style" is not compatible with the guys i like. For example, youre gothic and you like hip hop guys. Obviously, theyre not going to ever guess you like them because of the way you look. They would guess you like other gothic guys or rocker types. It sucks because you genuinely like those guys but theyll never know. In my case, I look girly and sometimes "glamorous" but I really really really really love skater boys. Behind the girlyness I supposedly portray, Im really not girly AT ALL. Trust I am so messy, my family thinks Im half boy half girl, I have mostly guy friends, I feel weird when Im surrounded by girls cause theyre so loud and girly like omg! and im like huh? oh hi. The only thing is that I like shopping and love clothes. I like looking pretty you know but thats about it. And so, back to the compatible thing, I recently met this skater boy hes so adorable and reminds me of another skater type of guy I used to like. I have these phases where I just want to be with them. But i know he looks at me like this girly girl who's "too mature" to play around. Ahhh idk lol it makes me nuts cause thats who i am! I f*ck around a lot and throws people off sometimes cause they thought i would have manners assuming from my looks. What am i supposed to do? Change the way I look so he can approach me differently? :-(

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  • Kinkygirl877
    13 years ago

    Just flirt with him. Approach him to do something crazy. Or tell him flat out that you like him. They arent easy to do sometimes. But ive found out that they work the most.

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  • instazombiinaboxx
    12 years ago

    Actually, one of the biggest things that all types of guys from all different styles, groups, and stereotypes have in common is that they like hot girls. They don't judge you by the style of clothing you wear. They judge you by how hot you are. Girls who dress more like guys are often looked at as sister types anyway. Guys don't want to date their sisters. You just need to let them know you're interested. If you're really pretty they're probably just intimidated and think you're out of their league.

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  • MiraviDesu
    13 years ago

    Stay girly if you like it, but meybe approach him and say you wanna go do some crazy shit or something. Or casually tell him that you hate how so many girls don't wanna do any of the fun things you see guys doing all the time. Show him that you are interested in something other than flowers, ponies, and glitter. Lol

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  • princess22
    13 years ago

    Sis*
    Sorry lol

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  • princess22
    13 years ago

    I'm very girly. Like very very girly lol. Love pink. Love shopping clothes makeup, I even have a pink car!!
    And my partner is pretty much a skater guy, so it really doesn't matter what u look like. If u have feelings for someone u go beyond looks...

    P.s my step sid is as full a goth as u can imagine and she dates a guy who dresses completely normal

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    I'm the same. I've always gone nuts for goth girls but I'm so non-goth in looks, I never get anywhere. I do okay with geek girls, though, and that suits me just as well.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Do you look like a geek? cause maybe thats why.
      It just sucks cause they wont even fall for the fact that youre into them just cause you fall under a different "category".

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  • thewoeman
    13 years ago

    Don't change the way you are, silly. That'd only get you into further trouble if things didn't work out. Then you wouldn't even be you.

    Have you tried just flirting? Letting the guy know you're interested is generally a good idea.

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  • Faceless
    13 years ago

    Im eating bacon right now, I dont care.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Ahahahaha that made my night :-)

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  • Mr-Time
    13 years ago

    I think goth/rocker/indie chicks are hot. My preference.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Guys mostly like girls to look girly so if a girl wants a guy to notice them be as girly as you can be and that doesnt mean gossip etc (you get the point).

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    U can try to show him how u act but don't ever change how u look for anyone...especially not a guy..no matter how adorable he is

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    Goths have an extreme look, they might have difficulties finding ppl who dont have their style. Other than that, it doesnt matter whether you're girly or skater, if you like a guy and he likes you, who cares if you're not dressed the same?? I love my gf to be different than me, you get to have so much to discuss.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago

    When you don't fit media standards you have to go and get what you want.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    girlyness is best anyway

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