Is it normal to never want to be affectionate after a break up?

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I am almost 20 and when I was 18 my ex and I lost our virginity to each other. About 6 months ago we broke up and I have been on a few dates and although I really really enjoyed spending time with these men, showing any kind of physical affection almost hurts and makes me scared. (I was an exotic dancer so this is NOT like me ha..) like last week I went on two dates and the first one walked me to the door but didn't go for the kiss and I was SO happy even though I like him. And the second guy was HOTT and I was attracted too but at the end of the night he kissed me at the end of the night and although I was a little turned on I was nervous and made up an excuse to leave. However I know if my ex called me up I would have no problem getting aroused and having sex with him even though the guy i just went on a date with was way cuter! IIN??

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    Maybe you still love him?

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    • Shakethatsaltshakerx3
      11 years ago

      There's not much I can do about it so I'm trying to spend time with other guys :(

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      • Energy
        11 years ago

        Yeah, I know how that feels. :/

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  • seekingcleanfriendship
    11 years ago

    It's very difficult for any person to date an exotic dancer / stripper and feel good about the relationship. There is a behavior and loyalty issue. Also take what you have learned and decide to change for the better so the next one you truly love will be able to love you back and stay with you.

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    • Shakethatsaltshakerx3
      11 years ago

      I agree. I'm trying to learn and be a better girlfriend next time whoever I end up with.. It is kind of nice to meet new people which I couldn't with him :/

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  • valisque
    11 years ago

    Call the guy up and screw... Why confuse yourself with these questions?

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    • Shakethatsaltshakerx3
      11 years ago

      I can't call him he hates me :(

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      • valisque
        11 years ago

        okay i'll bite. who did what and why?

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        • Shakethatsaltshakerx3
          11 years ago

          In the end he broke up with me. We both screwed up. I would say really insulting things about his weight and acne scars and end up apologizing then do it again.. And his friends hate me.. I think the straw that broke the camels back was I got into the hometown hotties contest and these girls were talking crap about me on twitter about how no one would vote for me and I'm a stripper and I said to him they sounded jealous and he said no ones jealous of you and hung up. That's how he did it. I think he was scared I would slap him if he did it in person because I've done that before. Sorry it's all very long and messed up..

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          • valisque
            11 years ago

            nah it all makes sense to me. i still think you should just go over and screw him.

            There is nothing like "i don't love you no more" just don't work that fast, so he's prolly been trying to think of a good excuse to dial you up for quite a while now.

            The dude was pissed okay, cant take any decision anybody makes wen they mad seriously. You've given him his space to chill. granted he's over what you said and the slap by now. and would be more than happy to answer the phone.

            Just stop thinking so much, ignore seekingcleanfriendship (he/she's missing the point), and call wen u done reading this, you don't even need to know what to say. System between you will work itself out.

            Do get back here with a progress report please.

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