Is it normal to never think a girl is interested in me?

So it's my junior year in college and I've been looking for a real girlfriend. Not just a hookup. There was this one girl. We talked almost every day over winter break, and we even kissed once. But as it turns out she was really just leading me on. She played me like a flute.

And after that whenever I find a girl who I think may be showing signs of attraction I second guess myself into thinking she isn't really interested. That she probably likes someone else and I'm just some annoying bloke trying to get in her pants.

I have a crush on this one girl right now. we're in the same club at school, but our interactions have been rather brief. Whenever we talk she seems interested and she smiles a lot, but I've seen her that way with other people and it discourages me.

Over spring break I mustered up the strength to start a little conversation with her on Facebook. She said "hey!" and we had a nice little chat. She asked me questions about myself.

But even with all of this, I can't bring myself to believe that this chick actually likes me. Is this common for a lot of you guys?

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  • Anime7

    I don't know if it is common but I was like this not too long ago. I think all you want is companionship but are too scared to go after it. I think it's smart that you try not to confuse kindness with infatuation. However, it appears to be detrimental to your quest to find love. In all honesty, I think that you should march up to that girl and ask her out, not through facebook but in person. If she says no then it's her loss and you can still hang your head up high because at least you put in the effort towards acquiring a romance. I think you'll make some lucky girl happy one day, why not make this girl the one?

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    • Itz_Me

      wow, this comment actually got me to think about this things from a better side. i let you know if this gonna work out for me :)

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      • Anime7

        I'm glad

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    • Thanks, that really helped me. I hope I can catch her at the right time though...

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      • Anime7

        Good luck, i hope you get her.

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  • Have the conversations ever found themselves on topics of a sexual nature, such as bondage or anal fisting ?

    Could be a good way to gauge her receptiveness.

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  • Fonzy

    ^THESE GUYS
    i agree with them all

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    • GuessWho

      Now we just need to thumb you to the top of the list...

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  • jazlogo5820

    100% normal. Trust me it is. The only reason you believe no girl likes you is because this girl that "played" you. And because of that you have lost self-confidence. But no worry, one day that "special" girl will come.

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  • FrancoisDillinger

    Try being direct. Lay it all out, man. Over analyzing things will lead to obsession and before you know it, it's too late.

    Go for it, man.

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  • Laser678

    Yes it is normal man I always feel like that

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