Is it normal to never be social outside of school?

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Got in an argument with my mom, and she started saying how I wasn't normal because I have no social contact outside of school, and how I'm confortable being alone. As in I don't hang out, text, or have any social contact anyone outside of school. And I'm completely content being this way.

Then she started going on about how about I should try to get a girl I loosely know to be my girlfreind, about how I "need" people to talk to and "share secrets" with plus some other bullshit I can't think of right now.

I remember her telling me to just be myself, but here I am being told to do otherwise because being myself isn't the
norm.

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Based on 77 votes (65 yes)
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  • Swayh
    12 years ago

    I have pretty much the same lifestyle. I have the option of hanging out with my friends and partying on the weekends, but I'm actually really content with just being alone and staying home.

    I think your mom was just looking for something to say that might upset you in the heat of the moment.

    If you're happy the way you are, then continue to be :)

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    It sounds as if you are an introvert by nature. Absolutely NOTHING wrong with this. Use it to your advantage. Instead of wasting your time with meaningless relationships with people, you can focus on more important things, like a lucrative career.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    God you mum sounds like a total cow, she should be encouraging you to be more outgoing or whatever put not insulting you! WTF?! Anyway, I was the same when I was younger but once I started actually hanging out with my friends outside of school (usually doing things that I'd do by myself with them, i.e. xbox360+pizza+beer) it's actually a lot more fun than being by yourself.

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  • Dad
    12 years ago

    I don't agree with Swayh, and Many others who continually say this specifically, is ok.

    Meeting and socializing with people will not change your personality!
    If you don't like being with others socially then you will most definitely feel lonely one day (loneliness can be Very painful)

    As an easy example.
    You go visit a waterfall or beautiful landscape, or you go to the beach in summer, or you want to see the latest movie at the cinema; you'll have NO One to share this with.

    Think about it a little, and then re-decide your long term loneliness.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't let your mom push you into friendships that she knows nothing about. You should find your own friends that have similar interests. You don't have to do what others do but you don't want to look back at your life and regret not trying it while you had the chance.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    If you're happy being the way you are, it's okay. I was kinda the same in school, like I had friends but I was rarely asked to hang out outside of school. Actually now that I'm out of school I hang out more.

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  • michelle13
    12 years ago

    me too i dont really hang out with ppl out of school either jus mahh bestfriend.... my mom is like that to..

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    I feel exactly the same. Luckily, I have a family that gets me, so I can't really give advice on how to deal with one that doesn't. Definitely a normal predicament though.

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