Is it normal to need to be reassured by him all the time?

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It goes like this, I meet a guy and I'm like, meh he's alright. And then we will see each other for a little while and he acts like he totally likes me. Then the moment I feel the same way, its like he totally changes. I then feel really scared cause I don't want to be hurt so I worry about it. Its like my affection chases him away. I don't know what I do wrong? I am really nice and i give them their space, I just like to be reassured that they feel the same and I like to let him know how I feel. If he doesn't call me for a couple of days then I freak! Whats my deal?

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  • hoping4best
    12 years ago

    Your post feels like i wrote it myself! :) the guy m currently having problem with does the same. He says that he really likes me and then the moment i start showing affection (hoping to be his gf) he gets busy and all and stops giving me time. It really pisses me off. Well, i broke up with him last night - not for the 1st time, for may be 50th time,but still. N this time i mean it. Though m hurt n want him back, but i also know that i can never be truly happy with him,or i had been...right?

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  • kit-kat-bar
    12 years ago

    Since then, I have found someone that makes me happy. I don't have to worry about him and he doesn't go astray. I'm glad I got over that other loser :) My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 months now and he has never dropped out of the picture :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    im not possesive i just got low selfesteem so i actualy ask my fiance to say i love u out of nowhere.. i love him to death and he loves me to but sometimes i feel like i dont deserve his love or im like "how did i get such a great guy when im so ugly"

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  • kit-kat-bar
    13 years ago

    soo, he called me, and I told him I was really upset about it, yikes, he was really apologetic, but things are still the same, we are just 'seeing' each other. I do agree that women do have possessive tendencies and that is just nature, but I already know that and He is the one who didn't call. He told me that he does that every once and a while, "just have to get away from everyone sometimes" he said. I guess I just need the attention.

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  • FishaPwice
    13 years ago

    Don't take this the wrong way, but all females have some sort of possessiveness. I'm not trying to start a comment war, but it is true. Millenia of men being the leaders and women being reliant has bred in a need to be with men. Please don't get pissed off by this and ACTUALLY take it into consideration.

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  • kit-kat-bar
    13 years ago

    He hasn't called me in 5 days, that is way too long and his phone is disconnected. He has other ways of getting ahold of me, I am soo hurt. Whats his deal, things were going so good why won't he call me?

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with you. There's everything wrong with sexual politics and the self-perpetuating games we feel we have to play because someone once played that game with us.

    Stay honest. You'll finally land on a guy who is doing the same thing and staying honest himself. Good luck to you!

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