Is it normal to need a father figure this badly?

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My dad's alive and lives with me but we don't have a relationship at all. Lately I've realized how badly I need an older male to look up to...and I just can't find one. I don't even know where to find one; I wanted to talk to my [male] teacher about this (we're friendly w/ each other) but I feel awkward. There really is nobody else to talk to (guidance counselors would just call my parents, which would make things worse), how can I bring it up? I'm a pretty blunt person but I don't want to make him uncomfortable. Thanks!!

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    coming soon: Daddy Issues

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  • Lonely2
    10 years ago

    Listen to George Michael's Father Figure....

    I think having an older male' s (someone who cares about you) perspective is a good thing....

    Surely there is someone you can talk too about your life....

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  • Rhuarc
    12 years ago

    Look up to historical figures like Thomas Jefferson or something maybe you could make something of yourself instead of looking up to a dead beat who for the past 8 years has been at the same dead end job and the only thing he looks forward to is the weekend.

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  • jimts
    13 years ago

    Your dad's a person, if he doesn't have what is needed to be a father he can't just change on your request - so try to bond with him by doing things that he likes and you like/potentially like/tolerate/don't hate. You'll see you can find things in him that you like and admire. If you are searching for someone that is superior to you in every way, stop searching! there isn't such a person; as much as we might find people with characteristics we admire, we will also find things in them we don't agree with - my advice is for you not to try to be as good as someone, but better than him

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago

    ask him to do things with you like fishing and other "manly" things. try to find things in common then go from there. good luck!

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    If your father is approachable then I would try talking to him and letting him know that you need a closer relationship and guidance.

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  • DandyElfman
    10 years ago

    You have a dad! One that you live with. I think you are really stupid to go seek out someone else. I mean is family just not good enough for you? Some people don't know or have a father they have contact with or cares about them. You should consider yourself lucky. FIX THE ISSUES WITH YOUR DAD YOU STUPID BITCH.

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