Is it normal to move in after dating for 2 months?

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The guy I'm dating is perfect. He's fit, gorgeous, takes care of me, adores me, and treats me like a queen. But he is already falling in love with me and we've only been dating for 2 months!

He wants to fly me down to Laguna Beach, California and move me into his amazing apartment on the beach so that we can be together for real. He will pay for everything, take total care of me, and let me run around doing whatever I want as long as I'm his faithful little Trophy girlfriend.

What do I do? I don't love him yet. It's too early to tell. But he is totally perfect. I just need to spend more time with him. But is moving in the solution? Help!

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  • (s)aint
    11 years ago

    You have met him two months ago. Anyone can appear to be perfect under such a short amount of time, in worst case you could end up abused in a various amount of ways.
    I´d be very, very careful.
    I´ve been together with my B/f for almost four years now and we do NOT live together. That is a gigantic step to take after only two months ...

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    • Ldizzy1234
      11 years ago

      I agree with you!

      People are always on their best behavior the first few months. Sometimes you don't even see someones true colors until like a year in. Be wise and cautious with this one.

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      • (s)aint
        11 years ago

        I´d say that i knew my B/F after more than a year together. And i know others that have said the same thing so yeah, a year is probably usually how long it takes for you to get to know another persons good AND bad sides, because everyone got one. Exactly everyone,

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  • fullhouse
    11 years ago

    Hehe.. I think your're mature enough.. Take your time, go and meet him or ask him to visit you and get to know him

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  • shed505
    13 years ago

    I think you just made this up, but if you didn't and you are not interested then please get this guy to give me a shout!
    Seriously, if you do go and live with this guy, make sure you develop yourself and your qualifications, hobbies, friendships etc.

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  • heycheri
    13 years ago

    Maybe. I'll run it by Justine.

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  • ruralfrights
    13 years ago

    You're making wsybtoo big of an issue of him being perfect. When you see his flaws (we all have them) will you feel the same? Probably not. That's the danger of putting him on such a pedistal. You speak of yourself as an object (a trophy) because that's your way of eluding yourself that you are perfect. Don't want to see imperfections. Actually, if the relationship is serious, then I actually WOULD move in with this guy to iron all the bugs out. If you can iron them out.

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  • osweettart
    13 years ago

    I think you just answered your own question too. Tell him you want some time. Also, DO NOT agree to be a "perfect little trophy girlfriend" that's a horrible idea which will either end up with you feeling trapped or feeling bitter towards him in the long-run. I started living with my boyfriend after two months and we are now married and expecting a baby, but our situation was completely different. We both knew we loved one another without a doubt in our minds and had been best friends for years. He has never once made me feel like I was a trophy, he makes me feel wanted and loved, yet I keep my independence. If this is how you feel, maybe this relationship isn't a good idea for the long-run. Just something to think about.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    If you don't love him yet then you just answered your own question.

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago

    Tell him how you feel (maybe not the exact words you used here..a little nicer, but close) if he doesn't understand there's something wrong with him.

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