Is it normal to miss you ex terribly

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I dated my boyfriend for almost a year and I wasn't happy with our relationship towards the end. It didn't seem like he cared about what was going on in my life and he was never there for my concerts or performances, even though they were often happening a couple blocks away from his apartment. I got tired of it and broke things off and then suddenly he wants me back so bad he would call me and beg and cry for me to change my mind. He said he knew he screwed up and wanted a second chance and for me to let him prove he wants to treat me right...but i held strong and said no. And then he started asking if I would just see him once as sort of a final adeau I guess...well we hung out and talked about random stuff and had so much fun...as we said good bye we gave a final good bye kiss...and I know it hurt him almost as bad as it hurt me...as I drove away I felt my eyes water up and spill hot tears down my face as sobs errupted from me and I had to pull my car over to try to regain control...i know I need to move on to better things but I can't bear the thought of him leaving my life forever...is it normal to hurt so bad over someone who should stay in your past? And any advice?!

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  • yogachick17
    13 years ago

    I love him :)

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  • yogachick17
    13 years ago

    I'm back with him guys! I can't live without him and I'm so glad we are together again cuz we are so much closer now! It's better than ever and it fills me with joy to be able to call him my boyfriend!!!!! Thank you for the advice though. It just didn't suit our situation. It's hard cuz nobody knows him like me. :)

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  • ChristineEsposito
    14 years ago

    It's good you stayed strong on your opinion, otherwise the guy will just toy with your feelings.

    As for it being normal, it is. Take the good memories and store them for remembering. Take the bad stuff and learn whatever you can from them, and make sure you use them to avoid relationships like these.

    Missing him and suffering is a part of forgetting someone so just let the process go on and don't try to avoid it, but don't make it any longer either! Go out, talk to you friends, do sports, take up a new hobby and you'll find yourself better in no time.

    Good luck! :)

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  • ceci
    14 years ago

    Completelly normal.... Just remember the things that made you break up. I think that for some reason we tend to forget the bad things and we stay with the good memories

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  • shespnz
    14 years ago

    It's totally normal. We have all been there. Just remember that anything less than extraordinary is a waste of time. You may always love him & miss him & it may never go away, but you will eventually find someone that makes u realize you made the right decision letting him go!

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  • lmn
    14 years ago

    I know what you are going through. I did the same thing a couple of years ago. I still love him but despite his efforts to reunite with me I have stayed away. I know this is the biggest cliche but I promise it will get easier. Soon enough you will see that your life is better without him. And the best part is that once you get through it you will be a stronger person for it. Never forget why you had to leave him behind. One of my favorite lines from the book The Alchemist is "tell your heart that the fear of suffering is much worse than the suffering itself".

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