Is it normal to miss you ex

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Okay so it has been about a year now since I broke up with my ex, and I miss him so much. You could say we had a on again off again relationship. He broke up with me once for a stupid reason and within a day came back. We were together for many months after that until a incident happened when we were at a volleyball game. I was with my friend on the seats below him and his friend. I didn't catch the whole conversation but I did catch this particular statement that made me so furious that it led me to the worst mistake of my life. "Well if your not going to break up with her I'm going to do it for you" his friend said that and it crushed me. After the game I went home and later texted him and we broke up. Yes I know I'm a childish ho and broke up with him through text. Anyway some thing went down and we were back together again and within two days I broke up with him again.... So I lost a family member that was close with me and I was going through a dark part of my life I for some reason thought I didn't need him so I pushed him away like I had done to every boy that has ever been with me. Now he is dating one of my good friends and they have a really weird relationship she tells me all the time how much of a idiot he is and that she doesn't care about him. He still talks to me and one day I was with my friends at a party he was there to and he must of herd us talking about exs and relationships because when someone asked me what my longest relationship was I answered with. "About 7 or 8 months" I tried to make it seem like I didn't know exactly how long that relationship was and then proceeded to tell them what boyfriend out of the four that I'm ever been with was. He then turned to us and said "8 months and 7 days". So since I have now publicly told everyone about my relationship issues.Is it normal to miss him even though I Left
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  • NoNotJesus
    7 years ago

    Its always normal to miss someone we spent a lot of time with. However, a relationship that is on and off is not really healthy. You obviously have something about you he doesnt like, and he has something you don't like. No amount of getting back together is going to change you or him. So maybe its best if you just accept the simple fact that you miss his company and move forward with your life.

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  • NoNotJesus
    7 years ago

    You have to feel like you are good enough. The world can sing praises, make books, and write articles about you. But at the end of the day its about how you feel to yourself. Pick up that self esteem. Don't allow another being to manipulate your self worth. Only you have that entitlement and ability. You will be ok.

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  • Harlequinn
    7 years ago

    Thank you. I really needed to hear that. It just hard for me to move on he was the one guy that I trusted. I don't know but I push everyone away especially men. I think it's because the one guy that your told will never leave you left me (my dad) and I just can't get over it like all men will leave me because I'm not good enough. He made me feel like I was good enough.

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    • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
      7 years ago

      Reading your post it's obvious. You don't miss him and his bullshit - you miss how being with him made you feel about yourself.

      Work out what it was you loved most about yourself when you were with him and recreate that just for you. You pushed him away during your dark period for a reason - you didn't need him to get through it. He wasn't the help you needed.

      Women who need a man to feel awesome about themselves lack ambition. xxxx

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