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Is it normal for a 49 year old man to marry a 30 year old girl? He has kids her age! Her dad died when she was young. Maybe she is looking for a replacement? Am I the only one who thinks this is absurd?
there isnt that much of an age difference, theyre both adults, theyre not related i dont see anything wrong with it...
Well I'm a 30 year old woman and I don't think I'd be interested in a long term relationship with a 49 year old. Older guys can be very attractive and wise and all that, but if he's got kids her age its just gross. He may be in heaven about the fact that she's so much younger and still wants him, but she seems to be on another planet. Too many chicks are so far out there when it comes to this stuff. Its not all fairytales and sparkles, and what happens 20-30 years down the road? Is she gonna wipe his ass for him and push him in his wheelchair to bingo night when she'd much rather be going out with the girls or something? No good, in my opinion
It is not so much the age difference but the circumstances. If she dies not accept his children it won't work.
What is it about this post that makes you two think it's written by a hater? There is not enough information here for you to even determine who wrote it. Maybe if you knew that this man also has a 2 year old daughter that his girlfriend won't acknowledge and pouts pathetically when he does, you'd change your mind. How about the fact that she has the mentality of a 17 year old? She thinks she's a princess (yes, as in fairy princess) and her ideal man is Edward Cullen. She doesn't want to grow up and her main goal is to stay in school forever. The only time she gushes about how much she loves him is when he buys her stuff.
I know this site is clogged by a bunch of wet behind the ears kids, but why can't you answer the question that was presented instead of making wild assumptions when there are none?
Love is love. If they get along that is all that matters. Stop being a hater. Seems like you need to find a man.
Sounds like you have insecurity issues as well concerning your kids, wondering if it's normal, so forth. I've known several people (usually female) who had no father in the home or the father died early in the childs life. The ones that I know seem to favor men 20 years or so older. And based on my experience, the relationships are as healthy and vibrant as any other.
Sounds too like the two of you need to bring this into the open. What about this is abnormal to you? Then, answr to that what or why and keep asking until you can't answer the question. That is where the heart of the issues reside. Make sense?
Another scenario for both of you to consider. If noted this particular difficulty with two of my closest friends. She is 60, he is 80. This is where age becomes a factor. Health issues (being elderly), sexual issues, dealing with the kids (he's more grandfatherly and she isore motherly)...causes friction.
Lots to consider. Yet, love will make what seems difficult, or impossible, remarkably workable. So, have faith and deal with the hurdles one at a time. Sorry so long. I hate long blogs, although I do them myself. Good luck!