Is it normal to marry girlfriend after she had someone else's child

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A year or so ago my girlfriend of four years and I turned our average relationship into a cuckold one due to our long distance as I work in a different country. It sure added a lot of kinky aspects but She got pregnant and had the baby several months ago. Recently was the first time I got to be with her again and I was incredibly shocked that I couldn't handle the situation of being around the child. And I shunned her immediately at first. I broke through that and am back with her and the relationship is nowhere near broken or on its way out. I know this is a real fantasy come true for some but It stirred a storm of problems for me mentally. Now I still love her and have no plans of leaving her, but Is it normal to take the relationship further and take on the responsibilities as well?

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    If you dont want to leave her, then you already have your answer.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    Would you date a woman who was in a previous relationship with a man and had a child with him but divorced him later? If you answer yes, you should have no problem being in this relationship.

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  • 6377annjoe
    9 years ago

    Marry the girl, my wife was knocked up but not by me when I married her she had a miscarriage on honeymoon, wwe been married 44 years

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  • MidwestJim
    9 years ago

    If you love each other, there is no reason to leave her. Many men have taken the responsibility of raising step-children. If fact, many men have unknowingly raised another man's child in situations very similar to yours.

    If you love her, and the open relationship was mutually agreed upon, then you should accept her actions and this child and all live happily ever after.

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    Of course, if you two love eachother! By the sound of it you were aware and approved of the fact she was sleeping with someone else so it would be wrong of you to leave her because of the result.

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  • richmanjoe
    9 years ago

    The first question is, why does she think she can raise a child on her own better than a couple wanting to adopt?

    The second question is, do you want to marry her and adopt the child, which means in your heart, you must raise the child as your own. Some men can do that. Some can't. If you can't then find another girlfriend.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Sounds like your dream turned into a nightmare.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Personally, I'm not sure she could ever fully regain my trust. I would have to have some pretty in depth conversations with her and give it all a huge amount of thought before marrying someone who'd cheated on me.
    The child would be a constant reminder of that infidelity, and I would have to be absolutely certain I would be able to accept and love the child, who of course is wholly blameless in all of this.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      From the sounds of the post, thr "cuckolding" was something both parties agreed on...

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        You could be right (actually rereading it you probably are), but even at that, for me it would probably not be as acceptable after the fact, as I thought it would be. But that's just me. If my lady couldn't wait until we were together (which I would make happen as often as possible), then she wouldn't be the right gal for me.

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        • charli.m
          9 years ago

          Oh I agree with you on that, just saying that (except perhaps for continuing the pregnancy) this seems to have been a mutually decided thing.

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