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Is it possible to make people become disinterested in you intentionally? If anyone has figured out this science do you have any answers?
Oh sure it is, for me it usually takes ten minutes of awkward silence perceded with chit-chat about the weather or something only a rock would find interesting.
Also sometimes ill wink at people for no reason, mid conversation.
Sometimes I wonder if the reason I have a monotone voice and don't talk much is because I've learned it from when I was more socially anxious as a way of deflecting attention.
I don't have any answers, but I do have some questions. :3
So, who are you trying to get rid of and why?
I would imagine that it's a passive aggressive way to reject unwanted attention so as not to hurt, offend or anger an unwanted suitor. I can't say I blame OP.
Well, yeah, that didn't slip by me.
My comment was an attempt at a bit of light-hearted humour. :P
Its this person I dated once. We have nothing in common and I so being with them is pointless. They seem to have realized it but do not care. I think honestly they are desperate to have relationship and I have had so many shitty ones I am fed up.
Is there anyway you can just tell him you're not interested in him and would like to be left alone?
First never mentioned the sex. Secondly people are not that intelligent. Saying "No I do not like you" is not something people understand.
Well, regardless of whether or not this person is male or female I think you have a right to be honest with them and yourself and tell this uninvited suitor to get lost.
What do you think would happen if you just told the person straight up that you're not interested and want to be left alone?
Make Facebook statuses that target the flaws of individuals you want to deflect. It's tacky and annoying, sure to make people hate you.
Do you mean disinterested or uninterested? Disinterested means fair or unbiased (like a judge is supposed to be). Uninterested means not showing interest.
Have you told her any of the words you've used here? Because it's pretty clearly being communicated to us, but then again you're not having sex with us like I'm guessing you're still doing with her. The truth is always best, even if it sounds horrible. But if you haven't said as much and *NOT* had sex with her immediately before, during or right after saying those words. And if you didn't say those words exactly, for fear she'd get upset & choose not to have sex with you, then you need to re-examine what it is *you* want
It works for everyone differently.
The easiest way to do is act like you have traits that the other person hates.
If that doesn't work, it's time for a restraining order.
I do it to people that bug me too much(and deserve it), but after a while I feel bad and give them a chance only to regret it when they piss me off again D:...
Don't have sex with her anymore, or do anything sexual or intimate with her anymore. This seems to be the hardest part for guys to get rid of these "women who just don't/won't get it." You're sending mixed messages because she doesn't want to believe you'd just have your cake, eat it too, and complain abput how you can't make her go away. Once you've had success for at least 2 weeks, not giving her mixed signals & false hope anymore; she still doesn't "get it", tell her that you have failed to communicate with her and regardless of fault you cannot be with her anymore. Tell her it's over. And do it BEFORE having any kind of sex with her. Then, don't have sex with her. See if that works.
I am not with anyone. At all! I am charlie sheen and this person is my wonderful stalker rose. They do not understand "Go away and its through" since in their disillusioned heads its still game on. I don't KEEP having sex with them and I have not actually had sex with this one. Its been months of ignoring them its still is not working.
Okay then, that's weird. I guess, pretend they don't exist, and if they continue causing you distress, file a restraining order. These types of people who won't believe words sometimes will realize it's serious and something is changing, it's actually not within their control. Sometimes it takes something tangible so that they don't misremember or dismiss something you told them. Hopefully this will make them realize they should change their pattern of thinking. Good luck.
Of-course. I think most people do it unintentionally though. When you're not interested in someone you naturally don't give much or anything to show that you're interested too.
I guess you could also go out of your way to make someone who is still interested, uninterested by making yourself look less attractive.