Is it normal to lust after your wife intensely after a decade ... but

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Here's my problem - you'll see part of it is really good and the other parts are really bad.

I am extremely physically attracted to my wife - I met her 13 years ago and she was sexier than any other woman I've ever seen. I've felt that way ever since, but it's only grown thanks to the sexual experiences and intimacy we've shared. I really love her - but it is also true to say that I totally lust for her.

other guys also lust for her - as long as they are respectful (just acknowledge she is gorgeous and gawk for a moment without lustful stares or dirty thoughts around us), I'll let them glance and get a flood of endorphins. She enjoys the attention.

My problem is I do the same a little bit with other women. She says I have wandering eyes - I just can't help acknowledge beauty - I've been that way since I was a young boy. Yet, not one lady has compared in sexuality or being as gorgeous to me as her. I would rather just ignore them all, but I can't help it. Though I'm working on it.

Finally, when having sex - I sometimes think how fortunate I am to have her, but imagine the naughty fantasies the other guys who saw her might have had of her or how they would bang her given the chance, so I'll find new ways to enjoy her every night we have sex.

So my complex is it normal question: Am I pervert or is it normal to lust this long for my wife while having these lustful thoughts that I have trouble controlling?

Any advice outside the vote truly appreciated.

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  • toppriority
    8 years ago

    Man this site is cool. Thanks to you both - I appreciate it.
    Mr.mr - I'll take your refreshing views. I'll just make sure not to use the wrong mixture of spices - even the best spices can ruin a dish. :)

    Cheers

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  • MR.mr
    8 years ago

    sounds completely normal to me.
    you are ok with her getting attention so long as it doesn't go beyond that, which lets her feel good about her self
    You're looking at other women makes you feel good and as long as it doesn't go beyond that, it's fine
    And your imagining other's fantasies in bed helps spice up your marriage.
    these all sound like good things.

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  • Time_Wasted
    8 years ago

    "Love is like a drug and we don't care about the long term side effects; we just care about how high we can get"

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