Is it normal to love your teacher?

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Last September my best friend and I started our exam year at high school. We’ve got a new teacher for English. She is only 28 years old, and I won’t lie, she is pretty hot. Naturally most boys in our class like her and sometimes joke around her, but nothing serious. However my best friend seems to really have a crush on her. He is always around her. When she needs help on something, he volunteers. She asks a question, he immediately wants to answer. He tries to speak to her after class. He’s always the last with leaving the classroom. And he’s always extremely nice to her, always smiling, I think sometimes he blushes, though I am not sure. The worst of all is that she seems to like him back. He is definitely her favourite. But the problem is that he is the best student in our year, so he is the favourite of most teachers. Anyway I feel like she gives him to much attention compared to other students and she often stands near him, and gives him a lot of compliments. Sometimes I see them after school speaking to each other in an empty classroom. Last time he even went to her house to get an English book, while I found it in the library. It’s really starting to stress me out. If I ask my best friend about it, he gets angry and says that they were only discussing schoolwork and that English is his favourite subject. He told me that he doesn’t have a crush on her and that I am jealous and that I’m all gay around him. So I am pretty offended. Anyways I am worried that they are dating, because It means they would both be expulsed from school and get a very bad reputation. Our school is Orthodox-conservative, it’s in Eastern-Europe, not somewhere in the USA! His parents also have very high-positions and would punish him severely. I don’t know what I should do, or if I am imagining this, or if it’s even normal for a 17-year old student to be in love with his teacher and vice-versa. I would like to help him, but now he ignores me. Other students are starting to think like me, even though I didn’t speak to them about this. They are making jokes behind their backs. I'm afraid other teachers or the director hear this. Could you please give me your opinions?

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  • Approach
    14 years ago

    I had sex with my teacher yesterday... It was very nice... And she pleased me greatly...

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    • carelessbitch
      14 years ago

      THATS SICK!

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  • cool-bean
    10 years ago

    I agree wholeheartedly with Siverlenses4 - every teenager usually gets a crush in a teacher due to hormones. I have before. My friend has before. But don't go too hard on your friend. After all, it could be a mere friendship. After all, there's nothing illegal about that.

    But you have done everything to warn him, and that's all you can do. It's his life, and if he messes it up, there's no one to blame but himself.

    Yet I still do understand why you want to warn him. It does sound suspicious. But I would actually talk to the teacher, and say something along the lines of, 'hey, I understand that you and my friend have a friendship and that's cool, but don't make him do anything he doesn't want to do and remember the law against serious relationships concerning students and teachers."

    You have done all you can for your friend, but, and you've probably done this before, try to tell him that it's cool to be friends with a teach (yay extra credit!) but you're just worried about the law and you don't want him to get expelled. And also to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid. Then probably leave him to cool down for a bit. Like, just give him an arms width for a bit so he gets a break from the rumours and the warnings (all in good meaning, though).

    (Don't take my comments too seriously. I am a 13 yr old girl. Just do what you think is best.)

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  • funnymoments
    10 years ago

    this is too long

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  • hallietheadorable
    12 years ago

    hell yeah my teacher and i do it 20-4-7 hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhaha JK you guys are sick in the head!!

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  • ashlee_darlin
    13 years ago

    That's hott

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  • jessmartian
    13 years ago

    First off I don't appreciate how you automatically assume something like this would be normal in America either.
    But I really don't think there is anything you can do. Sure he's your friend and your concerned for him. But he's going to do what he wants regardless. So you just have to let it be. Eventually they'll start to realize that other people are catching on and need to change. If it were reversed and this was a male teacher and a female student however I think you should talk to someone about it whether it be other students or parents.

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  • nerd9
    14 years ago

    Thanks for the advice. Anyway, my friend is 17. And in our country if school finds out, he and the teacher get both ex-pulsed. Plus if the school or the student's parents open a tribunal process against the teacher, than she's most probably going to jail, accused as a paedophile. I won't speak to his parents, as they are very strict. My friend would get severely punished and they would definitely do everything to put the teacher in jail. They have high-paid jobs and good connections, so that wouldn't be too hard. I tried to speak to my friend, but he always gets furious. He ignores me all the time and speaks bad about me in my back. He even threw me out of the student body association, as he is its president. It seems that other teachers noticed by now and the director is going to talk to our teacher. So I don't know what will happen. But they are in serious trouble. But after my friend's behaviour towards me, I don't know if I should be happy or worried.

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  • Unknown3
    14 years ago

    what s/he said ^^
    just make it subtle.
    Im sure they're clever enough not to do something like that though.
    dont talk to his parent's, they might transfer him & he might know it was your fault.

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  • Silverlenses4
    14 years ago

    I think it's normal for boys or girls to have crushes on their teachers. Believe it or not, it happens so many times it's too common to be true.

    BUT ultimately, it has to coem to a point where a clear line is drawn between the teacher and the student. If it starts to get out of the teacher and student stature, things would get ugly.

    A mere friendship is still fine but could be the trigger to advance the relationship even more. If it starts to get emotional or sexual, then it's against the school rules. Both student and teacher are jeaporising their career at stake. If your friend is a minor in the state you're living in (I belive he's not since he's above 16?), then the teacher is going to jail for it.

    Warn your friend of the consequences. But do not mention these to him like as if he really was guilty because he will be getting mad at you. Think of a way to mention it to him casually.

    At least you have done your part as a friend to warn him about the consequences of what he is about to do. That is the best you can do. If you are able to confirm your suspicions, talk to your friend immediately about you concerns. If he does not listen to you, talk to his parents about it.

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