Is it normal to love your same sex(female) bestfriend

So I have known my bestfriend since we were in 8th grade(13yrs old) and we just graduated high school(18yrs old). I'm going to call her "bestie" in this passage. Well "bestie" and I have been there for each other through everything; from getting our hearts broken, losing our virginity and the birth of her son at(15 yrs old). I can honestly say that i love that girl to death and would do anything to see her happy.. but what often sacres me is that i think that love is stronger than it should be. Okay let me explain things better for you all. "bestie" and i hung out really hard with these guys our "year 17 summer" as we call it. I admit I did things that i never thought i would do. I drank and received second hand smoke some might know that term but any who.. we had a little to much to drink i would say. It started with a kiss.. then she was on top of me kissing and playing in my hair; to my surprise thats as far as it went. Sometimes we bring that summer up, we often laugh but we questioned what it would be like. We never took it past a conversation but i find my self looking at her(not that i have to look hard, because we take showers while one is doing her make up and ect). I get aroused when she plays in my hair at night, position my boobs in my bra.. and when certain songs come on she dances on me. I often get jealous when she is around her sons father, because i have a bad feeling about him and i admit im hating on them a lot. She has often told me that i deserve love no matter what sex! i'm wondering if ceratin circumstances were different between her childs father, and if she wasn't scared about what other people would say would we be together.. I'm not sure but I do know that i heart that chick!( to make things worst i'm in a serious relationship with a guy! that i care alot about... i wonder if i could have both) Oh wow.. someone give me advice please..thank you!

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  • shortlady55

    completely normal.... i think :/ im in the same position right now only my "bestie" and i... well we arent talking and it really sucks. i feel like i have nothing without her.. but im still interested in men... however if she ever told me she loved me or we decided that we wanted more out of our "friendship" i would drop everything for her. i guess the slight difference is that we both havent dated many guys and we kind of know we love eachother without saying it. we have never kissed or touched but its come as close as it can get. for you id just say let her know how you feel unless you can know for a fact that she has some idea... then its okay to let it go unspoken for awhile. and keep your boyfriend for now! especially if hes a good one :) there is nothing wrong with going both ways :)

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  • pantychaffe

    she puts her hand in your bra? does she play with your nipples too?

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  • yomama707777

    Well your gonna have to move on she has a child an has a boyfriend and you do to, if you dont like your boyfriend an is miserable break up with him you dont wanna try to go to another level with her because it will mess up your friend ship just be friends! its the best thing to doo.. maybe you like girls? like maybe thats why you dont like your boyfriend.. idk just being helpful..

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  • MikaRose

    1. Sex is not a relationship, in fact it usually ruins relationships unless engaged.. I'm experienced with that as well as 100 of other ppl I know

    2. me being a lesbian I say talk to her, I love straight ladies cause they are the nicest people but hey if you fall in love with a girl you fall in love

    3. Just talk to her, tell her your feelings, you two are best friends and I'm sure that wouldnt ruin your friendship if you talk about it, even if she doesnt feel the same you got something big off your chest and you two will still love eachother unconditionally :) I Know a girl who only would have sex or kiss me, and no other female..we havent but I know she wants to, so maybe she is the same but doesn't know your feelings.. good luck with it all :D

    P.S normal

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    • MikaRose

      Oh my bad my eyes are hurting me atm so I didn't see you were with a guy, idk how long you have been with him but I'd still tell her your feelings and be like "But the thing is I'm dating __" and she can comfort u and give u advice :)

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      • bestie05nk

        your advice has been the most useful since i signed onto this website.. thank you soo much for not judging and leaving nasty, less than useful info like most people do on here!!! Im going to try what you said...hopefully it works out!! thanks again ; )

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