Is it normal to love your pets more than your kids?

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My Mom left us when I was about 6 years old and I have lived with my Dad ever since. She hardly ever comes to visit, we usually have to go to her if we want to see her.

She does not care to spend much time with us, even though she claims to love us. She didn't bother to visit me in the hospital when I was recovering from a bad car accident or my sister when she had her appendix removed or broke her arm in several places, she called every now and then. She posted on her Facebook about it and told me that she was glad that I was OK and gave me the typical hug and kiss when I visited her - that is as far as it went.

However, she LOVES her animals. I have seen her go homeless for weeks because she refused to live in any place that did not accept pets. I have seen her spend her last dime, sacrifice her health, walk for miles and put her job and school at risk for her pets. She always finds the money and time for her animals, but when it comes to child support, Christmas or Birthday presents or time to spend with us, she is broke, sick or busy. Whenever she DID put any time or money into us, she bragged about it for weeks, like she truly believed that she was the most remarkably maternal woman on this planet.

She does not talk about us kids much. She brags about her pets constantly, she has a blog for her pets, she has Facebook wall posts galore about how much she adores her pets, she has photo albums with hundreds of pictures of her pets... I guess what hit me the hardest was a picture that she "shared" on her Facebook wall that originally read "Without my children, my house would be clean, my wallet would be full but my heart would be empty" and the children part was edited out and replaced with pets.

Is there something wrong with my Mom? Is it normal that my Mom seems to love her pets more than she loves us kids? Are all pet lovers like this?

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  • intellectuallychallengedmaybe
    11 years ago

    THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOUR MOM. sorry.

    she may be possibly dealing with an internal struggle of her own. how many pets does she have? does she hoard pets?

    i'm sorry to hear that you are going through this, but i would schedule an INTERVENTION with all your closest friends and family to get your mom to realize what is going on, and how it affects you and your siblings.

    when you schedule and do the intervention let us know. keep us posted.

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  • curiouskate101
    11 years ago

    wow your mother is suppous to be visting you not the other way around. it sounds like your mom feels your a burden. or a chore that you dont wanna do but feel the need to get it over with. you should not let her treat you like this! if she doesnt make an effort you shouldnt either anyways shes the one missing out. i think you should tell her how you feel if she dosent try to change end your communication with her. you dont need anyone who doesnt need you

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  • julialynn
    11 years ago

    that's fucked up.

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  • TonybigCock
    11 years ago

    This is normal, although not the norm. Some womens brains are cross wired, so that the feelings they should have for children are for animals, and the feelings they should have for animals are for children.

    So even though i like animals i realise they are just a small brained beast and vastly different to a fellow human being.

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  • lizieralizard
    11 years ago

    Its not normal. It seems like she may have some mental health issues. Try not to take it personally, although im sure that is impossible. Im sorry you do not have the mother every kid deserves.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Maybe because the pets are more obedient than you

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    I do not have kids. Also this is very fucked up. Your mother is a terrible and irresponsible person.

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  • Anime7
    11 years ago

    Are you the same person that questions her mother's maternal instincts? If so then disregard the comment I made on your other post.

    Anyways, I agree with iEatZombies.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    All pet lovers are -definitely- not like this.
    The way your mother is behaving, I could certainly see why you feel the way you do about her. Unfortunately, you can't change these things. All you can try to do is accept her not caring as a very possible reality. Take your time grieving over the way she's treated you and your family, then try to let it go. None of it's easy, but it's there to deal with.

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