Is it normal to love your gf, but not trust her?

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Well I've been with my gf for about ten months now, and I love her and all that, (I really do) but , theres just one problem... I dont trust her :/ I used to , but then she lost it and she hasn't done anything in particular to gain it back. Is it normal to love someone but not trust them? Yes, right? I mean..maybe later I could learn to trust her again, that comes afterwards. Love should be first, right?

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Based on 46 votes (43 yes)
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  • FocoUS
    12 years ago

    You shouldn't learn to trust her she should earn it. A relationship needs love, trust, and respect. All three of those things. A relationship on just one or two things won't be strong. She disrespected you and you don't trust her so love is all that's left.

    This doesn't sound good to me.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    Just because you care about someone does not mean they are good people.

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  • Lucyg123
    12 years ago

    1 why you stop trusting her
    2 talk to her about it

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  • sunny_wantsome
    12 years ago

    Where there is no trust there IS NO RELATION

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  • freeearl
    12 years ago

    Nah trust should come first, if you can't trust her, dump her and move on. Trust is such an important part of a relationship, it can't really survive (healthily) without it!

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    • norm
      12 years ago

      Right on!

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  • blink281
    12 years ago

    You can't love someone if you don't trust them, let go of all your negativity and just be happy with her

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    • 1Swagger2
      12 years ago

      if only it were that easy ...

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  • catscrew
    12 years ago

    It's normal!
    I don't like my girlfriend having guy friends outside of school/work. I dont want any opposition. We have rules that we only have same sex friends over and chill with them. Yes, I get along better with girls, and yes She only gets along best with guys. But we dont want to get too close to other people of the opposite sex, because you never know what will happen.

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  • mmicheller22
    12 years ago

    Is it possible that you're image of her is slightly warped? Like maybe you are actually just holding on to the past, of what she used to be to you.
    I agree that trusting her again will take time...but from what it sounds like, she's had plenty of it and hasn't really put forth any effort to gain your trust.

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