Is it normal to love the one who lied and married you

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i know my husband for 6 years now. we were friends before we started dating then we decided to get married. after getting married I had to move overseas with his leaving behind everything I knew,parents friends family.only to have marriage happiness for few weeks coz after that we started to fight a lot.he wud treat me bad and all I knew was crying.then found facebook messages on husbands profile from before we started dating when he was with his ex gf. since I was suspecting him of having an affair this made it worse.constant fights and aguments.till I had to go back to my country for 3 weeks for family commitments. when there I calle him he told m he was at work and that he forgot his charger at his bros house in another city.i bilived him but knew something was up. till I went and checked my bank acc online and found out he was in another city wile telin m his at work.since Thursday till sunday and wen I asked him he made all sorts of excuses. huge fight then he decided to tell me he has a 1 year daughter from his ex girlfirnd which he found out when she was born that's after we started dating for few months.im totally broken.im back in the country with him living with him but daily having same discussions which ends up in fights or aguments. our future!!!I have not slept properly in 5 months now and after knowing bout his daughter since month now its become worse.week ago we had a fight and he kicked me twice but I did defend my self. thing is going back to parents is not an option and I have no idea y I stil love him so much that I wana go on with him. I cant tell my family coz its gona b heart breaking as everyone loves him nd us 2gether.i feel cheated and decived but I still love him.i cant let go of him and I wana stay with him I have to accept his daughter and ex gf in my life forever..i don't wana share my husband with them but have no option.this is early stages I kip thinking of future! advise any one?

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  • NothingxCrazy
    11 years ago

    You deserve better.

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    • jace
      11 years ago

      I know I deserve better and im being stupid to stay on like this.. his telling m he wants to make things right with me..he hardly goes to see his kid and I feel like im stealing a little babies dad from her.his changed a lot towards me.. but I asked him when I start working and we would be saving money from which you will be sending money for your daughter..how can he gurantee me that his xgf wont use it for herself..and that I wud be sacrificing everything so we can buy a house nd start our future and someone else b cashing on that..he doesn't know how he can gurantee me that it wont happen.im scared to tell my parents because they will take me back and wont let m be here with him..and I will have to get divorced and start all over again..i love him a lot coz I have loved him for a long time and I feel stupid knowing I don't have what his gf has which my husbands loves to bits..i cry daily and im depressed..

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      • NothingxCrazy
        11 years ago

        All I can say that if you're depressed like this, the situation is not healthy and you really shouldn't be with him anymore. You can't be afraid of change or being alone. You need to realize you have full control over your life. Even if you think you're starting all over, you need to realize you could also start walking down a path that makes you so much happier. Love doesn't cause depression, love is love. If you love someone and they make you cry constantly, then it doesn't seem like they don't love you.

        Keep your head up and try to figure out if your life is worth the crying and stress. I got out of a bad relationship recently. I was doubtful that I would be happy as I walked out the door and drove back home. I was doubtful when I got home. Looking back I realize I made the right decision, no matter how hard it was for me. Sometimes you need to face your fears in order to be happy again.

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