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I met someone online about two years ago. At first we were just friends but then it evolved into something more....he's over 3000 miles away and i never met him but i still really care about him...is it normal to love someone youve never met?
I think you can fall in love. Who says to love someone you have to have physical contact? You've seen each other in photos so you know if there is physical attraction and you must talk a lot so you know if you get on with each other. That's a good start - what more do you need?
Just have to be careful that someone online can be one person and in reality another person entirely. I had it happen to me - I met someone online and we really hit it off. We'd talk for up to 5 hours a day online and laughed so much. When we finally got together I discovered that she was a real bitch, bad tempered and immature.
Like any relationship, you're playing the lottery. Some have luck, others don't.
Same with me. Back in 2005, I met a guy online who was 1300 miles away, and at first, we had giant crushes on each other. We talked on the phone too. But now i have a boyfriend and we're still friends, but don't talk as much as we used to.
I've fallen in love with the imaginary "perfect girl" that I have created in my head. I've never met her, but I consider it normal to love her.
Its not necessarily normal, although becoming more so, but it certainly happens. I personally know 3 couples that originally fell in love before they ever met, 2 of those couples are now married and the third couple are intending to get married and have been together (physically) for 3 years.
I think that personalities can be strongly attracted and isn't amazing that for these people looks actually didn't matter at all?
Unfortunately, it's very much possible and not uncommon. Most of these people who say it's not real have not gone through a situation like this themselves. I myself fell in love - and when I say that, I truly mean it - with someone I had never really physically met. Yes, at first it was just friendship, but then it got much deeper. He lived in a completely different country than me. For two years, we sent tens of long 15-paged letters, and talked every day for several hours on the phone, on Skype, and via text message. He was my best friend, but even more than that - we were truly in love, no matter how embarrassing it seemed. But oh yes, it did hurt. It hurt like hell and started controlling the lives of both of us. Our studies started going rather badly and my parents thought I had a severe computer addiction, when truth is that I was simply addicted to him.
I did meet him finally, and we spent the best week ever together. Everything was just as great as we had imagined. However, after going back to our virtual rituals of Skype and such we realized we could not do it anymore - the pain of not physically seeing each other was simply too overwhelming.
The day we decided to stop talking was the day I got my heart broken for the first time. I thought it had happened before but oh no, it had been just a mere joke compared to this feeling. He cried, I cried, and it took me roughly seven months to get over the grieving. Having someone play such a big part of your life and daily routines, and then lose it. It felt like someone had died. Losing someone because he for example cheats you is one thing. Yes, it hurts, but you also have a reason to hate that person and therefore have an easier way of getting over it. Losing someone simply because of distance? That's another thing. I still love him after three years, and most likely will never stop. The hope of a future with him is like a disease silently nibbling the back of my brain. Still, I can't stop hoping. We still talk every once in a while, but are careful to not take it too far. I miss him.
Shortly said, know what you're putting yourself into. Please. This is no joke - the odds of a long distance relationship working are not too great, and this kind of love really hurts, despite of it's greatness. If you had just started talking to him, I'd recommend you to stop, but in this situation all I can do is wish you the best of luck!
I'm going to disagree and say that while it's not the definition of love most of us have, it's certainly part of the whole. Love is often rooted in the physical but that's not all it is. Feeling a connection with someone is mental as well as physical. Far be it from me to suggest you don't have that connection.
The bit you are missing is the physical intimacy, and that is only one of the ways we love.
I say... you MUST check out a book called GRIFFIN and SABINE. It will take you less than 45 min to read the entire three books, because what it is, is letters back and forth between two people that had never met and they found eachother mysteriously and loved eachother.. At least google it.
Totally normal. Even though you haven't met, you've gotten to know each other. I would suggest finding a way to meet though. Doesn't have to be anytime soon, but someday.
I'm sure people are going talk about how love can exist even with weak connections but I'm going to be realistic this time not optimistic.
You don't know him. They say you never really know someone until you lived with them. You really don't know much about him do you, he's 3000 miles away. It's not love. Don't tell yourself that it is love, you'll hurt yourself.