Is it normal to love someone you don't know?

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There's this girl I have seen and she is absolutely gorgeous. But, I, being the quiet and shy type, have never spoken to her. I have some mutual friends with her and they were telling me about her and I know this sounds weird, but I fell in love with her. I can't stop thinking about her and everytime I see someone that remotely looks like her, I do a double-take, thinking it's her. She's perfect. Smart, respectable, beautiful, very much lady-like. But how can I feel like I love someone I've never said 'hi' to? It's not a crush, that's as normal routine thing. This is like that times fifty. Is this normal?

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Based on 34 votes (28 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago | pl

    You're not in love, your infatuated.

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    • (s)aint
      9 years ago

      Or maybe possibly "in love" with the image that he has constructed of her based of his thoughts and observations.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        ...but, not in love with the actual person.

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        • (s)aint
          9 years ago

          That is true!

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Yep.

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    • hopskipjump1234
      9 years ago

      What's the difference?

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  • DaDoc
    9 years ago

    Never ask someone to do something like that for a first date. First dates should be in a simple setting where you can get to know someone better. Like going out to eat. There's to much pressure to go to a formal ball on a first date. That's more for people that are couples. You never ask someone for a date over text. That's total disrespect. Don't just tell her how you feel, that won't come across good to someone that you barely know. Ask her out to get something to eat with you, face to face, and let your actions speak for you. If that's the way you feel use this as a chance to show her that you'll treat her like the queen she is.

    Prepare for rejection. Don't go to her expecting her to say yes because you don't want your dreams crushed if she says no. Instead, be ready for her to say no and have a plan for what your next move will be. Rejection should make you stronger. Be confident, prepare your self for what you'll say. You can even hang around her as a friend before you ask her out again, that way she can get to know you without any pressure, and you can get a chance to show her what type of person you are. Words are meaningless when it comes to love, show her.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    You should definitely introduce yourself to her and then proclaim your endless love to her. Chicks dig that

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    • hopskipjump1234
      9 years ago

      Welllllllllll, I kinda might have. Butttttttt I kinda might of messed up cause I kinda asked her to a very formal ball and she said "No, I don't think I should go to a dance with someone I don't know." Plussssss I did by text. Huge fuck up.

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      • Phalanx
        9 years ago

        Why would you do something so silly?Since you said you are shy and quiet type i suppose you don't go on dates very often.The first thing you should try is asking her out,just the 2 of you in some familiar place like a bar or pub or wherever you like to go so you 2 could get to know eachother and maybe after some dates,if you feel comfortable enough with her ask her to a ball...aaaand very important : don't rush it.if the formal event passes let it,just don't rush it if you truly like her.

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