Is it normal to love someone who is the reason all of your pain?

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i left for three months to another province because i had so much pain when she cheated on me, while i was gone, i lived in solitude and pure depression but then i went back and back.to her to find out she slept with three guys the three months i was gone..i know sex is normal but we had lost it to each other and it kills me every day of my life and i still went back to her ( i never slept with anyone else) I hurt everyday over it and its been a year and it actually is the worst feeling ive ever felt but i cant leave her because i truly love this girl and she loves me but it fucking kills, ive even thought about cheating but im not capable of doing so,i hate the fact that i cant leave her but i also hate the possibilty of not.being together.

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  • alecein
    9 years ago

    Leave her!!! And fuck a couple people before trying to find a real relationship.

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  • sweetpea92
    12 years ago

    I feel your pain I really do, but please tell yourself and make yourself believe that this GIRL... and this feeling you have for this girl isn't worth the pain. Sooner or later you'll regret the day you didn't move on.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    She treated you that way coz she sees you as 'weak' and you are just confirming this. I promise you that you will look back in 5 years and wonder why you wasted so much time with this waster. It would be easier to get over the heartache if you didn't have to look at her everyday. She sounds like a right slut who would go with anyone who would have her - so I doubt you will have too long to wait before she dumps you.

    Take control and get out. Never, ever waste one single day of your life with someone who doesn't make you laugh!!

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  • Ksizzle
    12 years ago

    Honestly. You need to leave her in your past. where she belongs. It dosen't seem like she's bringing you anything but depression. Move on, what's happened, happend. You seem like a really nice guy, and this girl dosen't seem too nice. I think the person for is still out there waiting for you to find her! :)

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  • mysteriousboy
    12 years ago

    I AM ONE OF THOSE 3 LUCKY GUYS......!!!!!!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I consider this normal, but I don't think you should continue putting yourself through this pain. I mean I'm not telling you what to do, I just don't think this is the healthiest choice. Best of luck with everything.

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    • 420johnk
      12 years ago

      But in my opinion, life is full of pain and i dont want to regret it in the future which is my main fear

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  • Saycheese
    12 years ago

    Yes the pain sucks but it would be best to just stay away from her. You would have a much happier life without her truthfully. You deserve someone soooo much better. I know you'll for sure find the right person, but I know it takes time to lose those feelings.

    Live your life... stay away from her and hang with your good friends and family that do care about you. You only live life once.

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    • 420johnk
      12 years ago

      I wish i was capable of doing so but im stuck with her unless she breaks up with me, i dont like being in this position at all but im honestly always thinking that shes worth all the pain in the world but i also regret ever meeting her

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      • Saycheese
        12 years ago

        You need to focus on yourself right now; get away from her. It's that low self esteem you have on yourself that is making you want her, making you feel lonely without her.

        Also how old is she, because maybe she'll change through time and you could always get back together with her later on down the road. But also you can think she loves you, but would somebody who truly loves you; hurt you like that and then have sex with three other guys after you were gone for just 3 months.

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        • 420johnk
          12 years ago

          i know this, i ask myself this all the time if she loved me, why would she do that lol i really want to but i just cant summon up the courage to so but i will because your right lol just not sure when

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          • Saycheese
            12 years ago

            Yeah, you'll make the right choice in the future. :)

            I myself have a hard time getting away from the men that I like when they don't like me that way also... I feel lead on.

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  • violetgrape
    12 years ago

    I empathise with your situation.I thought only us girls go through this.

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    • 420johnk
      12 years ago

      no guy or female deserves to feel like this

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    • 420johnk
      12 years ago

      it's terrible lol

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    Tough situation. Of course it's normal, though it may not be the healthiest relationship in the world. But it's understandable that you feel this way.

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    • 420johnk
      12 years ago

      i dont think its healthy either lol but i seriously just cant go through with it which is why it legitmantly sucks haha

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