Is it normal to love someone way younger & have a relationship online

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I loved this girl online and she loves me too.
it's mostly on text but we really care for each others and can't leave each others.
the problem is after loving her I discovered that she's 14 and I'm 23.
I love her because the way she thinks and she's way older than her age, I loved her before even seeing a picture of her. (I'm not a perv)
we won't see each others in person until she's over 17 or so, because I live in a different country, so we're not gonna do anything illegal.
is it normal to have this kind of relationship?

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Based on 104 votes (41 yes)
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  • rexdarling
    12 years ago

    This is NOT normal. She is far too young and impressionable. It is unethical for you to pursue her romantically because of her inability to rationalize the relationship the way you do. It may seem that she is mature enough for you, but she is only 14! As the adult, you need to end it immediately. Quit being creepy, before you end up on the news for statutory rape.

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    Pedophile.... That is the proper terminology.

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  • LivT
    11 years ago

    No it's not fucking normal you paedophile! Your obviously an online sexual predator who has groomed this girl who obvious isn't intelligent enough to realise!

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  • kittyg7113
    12 years ago

    Honestly, you need to show total restraint and keep it completely 100 percent friendship until it's legal. You'll be glad you did later in life. You don't want to look back and wonder if you manipulated somebody who was too young at the time to make adult decisions. Not saying you're doing that, it sounds like you're a good person, but just be responsible now so you can enjoy a good relationship later.

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  • Bubbles12
    12 years ago

    This is an excellent example of the reasons technology cause problems in relationships, This is one that should not have even started, and would not have, had you met in person. The whole thing is an illusion, so let it go now before you do something you and she will regret.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Once you found out she was only 14 years old, you should have had the maturity to realize that she is NOT available to you and move on. Your "love" does not matter anymore because she is a CHILD and you are an adult. Any self-respecting person would find this situation alarming enough to change their feelings.

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    • helplessness
      12 years ago

      My feelings changed when I found out. But they returned after a while. :/

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  • shuggy-chan
    12 years ago

    dont hold your breath thou, just hope for the best and dont be to suprised if it doesnt pan out i had the same kind of thing happen.

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    • helplessness
      12 years ago

      What happened with you if I may ask?

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      • shuggy-chan
        12 years ago

        Ahe was my like my lil sis more the wanna be GF, but i did lov her to pieces. But she made me pissed off, so i ignored her for like a few weeks and when we talked again her said she had a bf, but i was oky with that.. till she told me i was her ex, the same cunt that forced her to have sex and 12 and was abusive to her. and then she said it was my fault cause i wasnt there to pay attention to her, so after some cafe consideration i told her (but in like 6 page text) but simply that im done and she had to make her own mistake, cause i cant spend my time babysitting her her whole life.

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  • alv1592
    12 years ago

    Well there's nothing wrong with being friends if you get along good, as long as it's nothing more than that. At least wait until she's older. Once you're both consenting adults, 9 years won't be too much of an age gap.

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  • MissWhip
    12 years ago

    The situation isn't ideal to say the least however by purely accepting the situation you are doing the right thing

    Good luck and as others have said, you be surprised if things don't work out.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Maybe she is just another Lolita

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  • SxcSara
    12 years ago

    Yes its normal. you cant help who you fall in love with. iv had lots of relationships with men alot older than me, and most were even older than my dad.

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    • DaniBoo<3
      11 years ago

      I agree I go on online games all the time and there are people who are just so nice and sweet :) I think maybe it's just that the girl reminds him of someone he likes in person he just doesn't know it :)

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