Is it normal to love my boyfriend one day and hate him the next?

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I'm 21 and I've been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 months. One week I'll feel ridiculously happy and in love with him, I can't stop smiling, I want to have loads of sex with him, I'll think he's utterly perfect and like I never want to break up with him. A few days later I can feel like absolutely everything he does pisses me off, he constantly irritates me, I definitely don't want to have sex, I don't feel like he gets me or we have fun together. It makes me question our whole relationship and it makes me question if I really do love him if I can feel this hatred towards him. I just started taking the pill again after having a break from it for a year and I've been very emotional with bad mood swings since, plus I'm under a lot of stress with uni, I don't know if this could be linked to it or not. Or maybe he's just not right for me, maybe I like the idea of our relationship more than I like him.

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  • roguehamster2073
    8 years ago

    you need someone with good looks and personality. That way when looks fail, personality saves him, and vice versa

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    PS: Did you experience mood swings when previously on the contraceptive pill? If so, you have your answer and another form of contraception may be more suitable for you. Women do respond in different ways to artificial hormones.

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    • Girlboss
      8 years ago

      I don't remember feeling this way last time, but I've definitely only been having these mood swings since I went back on it. Thank you for your advice.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    That's common if the relationship is based on sex and it almost invariably means it won't last, so you can either call it off now or just enjoy the good parts until the negative stuff takes over.

    Check out the term "limerance"

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    They used to call that manic/depressive disorder, but now they call it bipolar.
    Best get yourself to a shrink ASAP, young lady.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      What are you on about? Everyone has mood swings, it doesn't necessarily mean bipolar!

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Read the post again. IMO this is a bit beyond 'mood swings' and how can seeking help be wrong, anyway?

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        • Ellenna
          8 years ago

          Nothing wrong with seeking help but the assumption that she may have bipolar and needs to see a shrink is far too extreme.

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