Is it normal to love him even though he uses me?

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My ex used to be sweet, but now he's stopped "trying", as he put it, and just takes what he wants. I gave him everything he wanted just so he'd be happy and flash a smile every now and then and in hopes he might go back to being the sweet guy I knew when we first got together even though he treats me badly now (using me, talking about his exes or "hotter" girls, asking me for my friends' numbers, telling me how he wishes I looked, calling me names, stealing, etc.) and now every time I try to move on, I think about how I'll never find someone like him again, considering his good-side is litterly the guy of my dreams. Now I can't see him for a while, could be months or even years, and yet I'm waiting for him. I'm wasting my life waiting even though there's a 50/50 chance there may be nothing to wait for (if he'd chose not to get back together) and yet i don't want to move on. Is this normal?

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Based on 41 votes (20 yes)
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  • joker47
    13 years ago

    If you want we can date :)

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  • IMissMary
    8 years ago

    Dump him and get with me so I can use you....I promise to treat you like shyt

    Interested?

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  • freeme
    13 years ago

    Sounds like the guy has psychological issues and you have become a victim of it. Forget about him and find someone better, I'm sure it won't be that difficult for you if you just broaden your standards a little bit because you don't know what else is out there for you

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    stealing?!? Dump him.

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  • wxl2
    13 years ago

    u can definitely find someone and definitely deserve someone better than that. Move on girl. He is not the only one!!!

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  • boys-are-toys
    13 years ago

    i had a boyfriend just like that and it hurts like hell to break up with them but in the future you will realise it was for the best think about how many guys are out there you really think you can't find another one like him? trust me you will eventually and probably even better it seemed like almost impossible for me to get over him but a year passed and i don't even think about him anymore you're obviously not happy with him and this might sound mean but it doesn't sound like he is happy being with you either. so just move on and find someone worth all your efforts.

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    Dump his arse and move on girl :-)

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  • harrypotters
    13 years ago

    I understand it is extremely hard to move on from someone you though was the one. From what you said though you need to you are only hurting yourself by not moving on. You need to get out and socialise more with friends and meet a new guy. It sounds asthough he just pretended to be nice and suit your ( perfect guy) so he could get in your pants use you than leave.

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