Is it normal to love but not be in love??

I been with my girlfriend for about 10 years now and our relationship has gone downhill for quite some time... I been trying to make it work because I love her and don't want to hurt her but I don't feel that I'm IN LOVE with her... What should I do?? Is this feeling normal??

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Based on 43 votes (30 yes)
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  • mumbum

    Ignore previous dick for brains poster... There is always one.. That is a hard situation. I reckon you need to move on but then I am in exactly the same position as you and simply can't find a way to move on... What do we do??

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    • dappled

      I really like your recent replies. You seem like a genuinely nice person who actually cares.

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  • GHunter

    Yes very common with women that i've noticed. That they mostly go for suave & sexy looking type for "good looking babies". When most handsome men (didn't want to say sexy that time) that I know IMO, are cocky assholes who only care about your ASS-ets not you.
    So I cannot blame you, even as a guy myself, that you have lost love in another.

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  • MrsBailey9

    Difficult situation that either needs new life or a happy ending. How about taking a trip together. It could even just be over the weekend if you can't afford a long trip. Go somewhere and do something fun, exciting, or different. Try a new restaurant. Go for a long walk and fly a kite. Use your imagination to create something different and exciting and see if those "sparks" return... If not, hey, at least you'll know you really tried. Beginnings and endings, it's really all we have, what we do in between makes the difference.

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  • confuzzeled

    Thanks for the actual advice... I'm
    Just so tired of it all... I didn't mention that I too am a female she is my first same sex partner... I feel like I just wanna get married and have kids... Ugh please someone help!!

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  • Halkarin

    Go Mimi go! Spot on: Adventures.

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  • mimilecious

    Yes its normal! This happens almost to all married couples after a while of marriage. And the reason is that you got used to her as a person, but the passion is gone! If u want to keep her, try to have new activities, or advantures together, to break the routine!

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  • JuliusE

    Oh for fucks sake! You want to get married and have children?? So what you're saying is that you'd like to do whats written into your genetic code being a woman?! Preposterous! How could you want to get married to a nasty MAN and have babies when you could be with a nice strong WOMYN?! You "liberal" cunts distrust me... It's natural for many straight women to appreciate and even be attracted to other women, it doesn't mean your a goddamned lesbian. Actual homosexuals are usually born that way because of chemical imbalances during pregnancy (but that's not politically correct since that would mean it is technically an abnormality...a defect) and it shows in brain scans how homosexuals have brains resembling the opposite sex. Other homosexuals have probably been molested that way, but thats a whole different bizarre story. Anyway, your probably just straight and are having normal feminine instincts...studies show few career women are ever very happy, especially compared with women to have children...I mean think about it...survival wise, would it make sense for most women to find more happiness procreating and taking care of their offspring, or going against the most basic and vital instinct that ensures the survival of the human race?

    I'll tell you what. There has been some serious brainwashing of our women for as many of them who are straight decide not to have children for one reason or another. Even though most of them still do, it's shocking and disgusting to me. Some will always choose not to, but not like today where so many "womyn" are tricked into thinking they will be happy without them...only to find a huge hole in their lives when it's too late.

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  • Tehboss

    you should either gtfo of the Internet and try to solve it (talking to her and all that shit), or use the Internet for what it's for PORN!

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  • arcadios91

    10 years? ask her to marry you. bet that will fix ur problems.

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  • AmvEditor

    No it's not normal posting this story!! it's at least annoying to me.

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