Is it normal to love being alone?

Perfectly normal i enjoy some me time too

I love being alone but hate being lonely.

l just love the idea of being alone not that l hate being around people. it just happens that it makes me feel much better. On weekends l buy my beer and drink in my house, l even go clubbing alone. i realize though that this has inhibited me from having a proper girlfriend because l feel they stress my life by demanding too much attention. l prefer to meet my gf once a week, send messages rather than call and go out once a month. So girls end up breaking up with me saying l dont give them attention and/or value her and l really dont understand what kinda attention or value they want.

It's normal. Sometimes I wanna be hanging out with my friends and sometimes it's like leave me alone people...

Its completely ok...Yada yada all that impower the woman stuff that I totally agree with but don't have the time to type...My question is about the man in your situation.Does he know how you feel about not really wanting marriage or kids? Or that you don't like having him stay to long? If so good but if not then now is the time. What about when (if?) things get more serious on his end but not on yours and he decides to do somethin stupid like pop the question or want to move in with you??? Your feelings may(but not likely) someday about family life or even about living with somebody but until then your partner needs to know not to expect anything your not willing to give

Jill123, one thing you can look forward to is that the pressure to have children has to evaporate by the time you reach your forties: I know that. And I can also tell you in all honesty that I have no regrets about my decision. For many reasons, motherhood simply was not for me and any lurking confusion about it was, I now realise, not from me but the terribly misguided perceptions family and others had about me because I wasn't doing it- such "flattering" condemnations as being "lazy," "irresponsible," "not living in the real world" etc. It still hurts that my folks could not see me as I was, only how I failed to conform to their prescribed projection of me as a housewife and mother. But that is what hurts, not the fact I didn't have children. I think it is so important women get that part straight and be honest with themselves. The pressure to conform can be suffocating and devastating. But at least the psychological effects can be worked out. It's not so easy for a woman saddled with a child she might not want, the time, energy and money and craziness it takes to raise the child and not least, the effects on her body and health.

I had a period of estrangement from my parents and when I remade contact, having children was no longer an option because of my age. But still, my mum (now dead) had to say "it was a pity you didn't have children," despite the overwhelming issues I had to face with health etc! I wish I had told her that it would have been a great pity if I had because it would have been unwanted; but sometimes, one has to just button the lip for the sake of peace!

Omg, totally normal. I LOVE spending time alone. People in general can really get on your nerves at times due to all of their personal drama and negativity. I love spending time with my man, my friends, and family as well, but that alone time keeps me sane. Dont feel bad about not having kids. I don't have kids either and am constantly getting hounded to have them. Im not really trying, but If I don't have kids within the next three years i won't worry about having them and won't care what anyone thinks.

"If society had a healthier attitude that clearly said "It's okay for women to stay single and childless as long as they're happy", then I think a lot more women wouldn't feel the pressure to get married"

Hahaha no, you'd just end up with an inlfux of scumbag single moms flooding the world with more scum. Because said women breed regardless of getting married or not. Society does say it's okay for women to stay single and childless, but it doesn't say anything about "not having ten kids in highschool" unfortunately. It's not general society that is the problem, it's SOME of the shit that it's made up of. Women who don't use birth control and are child crazy.

I mean, I'm male and I don't belive in kids or marriage.

OMG I feel the same way!

When I was is middle school, we had PE outside and the whole grade had it at the same time. I would go climb in a tree so the coach wouldn't see me and just watch from above and enjoy being alone. I do hang out with a lot of people other times, but there is something calming about not having to worry about taking care of anything else

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I love what you have expressed here because I too am a loner and really, always have been and agree with so much of what you have said. I never wanted children- simply cannot stand the chaos and noise and truly don't have a maternal bone in my body! I saw my own mother imprisoned as a full time, overweight, depressed housewife and mother, which did nothing to persuade me it was an attractive path! And yet I was treated by my family as some kind of dysfunctional creature because I exercised my right to choose to be a child-free woman. I have struggled much of my life with this perception that a woman is wrong and "not living in the real world" if she doesn't enjoy family and children. I felt sad (and have endured severe damage to my self perception) that even my own folks couldn't see past this issue to the person I am and many outsiders couldn't either even in this day and age. Contrary to the lip service paid that a woman has the right to choose, there is a deep river of expectation that women are nothing but baby producers still in the collective psyche. But as you say, just look at the state of the world! Why bring more babies into it? Social services are full of children born to people who should never have been parents- I'm not saying all in care have bad parents, but many do. And surely it is blatantly obvious that if a woman doesn't want children, she shouldn't be pushed into doing so: that's hardly a good start to bringing a life into the world! Medical complications and death are still a reality too and with the toxic environment, some women simply do not have the right hormonal balance to safely bear children anyway.

As to enjoying being alone, I think that most people today do not spend enough time alone. And so people are shallow and prey to establishment manipulation because they do not reflect on life and establish a good philosophy for themselves. We all need space for reflection and relaxation and not everyone can relax well in company. I personally find long periods of company exhausting! I adore my partner and he spends a few days away on a shift and an equal number back. At one time when he was laid off and unemployed for several months, I really was constantly exhausted and totally relieved when he returned to work! My ideal would be the way you and your man are but alas, money is a big problem for me. But in all honesty, even after several years and despite the fact he is the love of my life, I am constantly plagued by the feeling that I would perhaps be better off alone!

Sounds good to me. I am a lot like you, except I have a child and I live with my man. I thought he was a lot like me, in that he liked being alone but he actually needs to be around me quite a lot. Now it seems that the only time I am alone is when I'm on my computer or going to school. Things happen and I have adapted, but just know that I rather envy you, haha. And I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all.