Is it normal to love and hate your partner?

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I'm 22 years of age and recently I've found myself in a position where I'm beginning to dislike my partner very much. We've been together for about 5 years now and about 2 years into the relationship I discovered that he was very flirtatious with other women and was even setting up various social media sites under different names in order to chat to these said women and also expand his porn collection - of course I found this somewhat upsetting.
We moved on from this and even now, I occasionally look back on this and think of how much I dislike him for doing so. I get so close to wanting to leave him, even though he promises never to do it again, but I just can't because a part of me still wants him in my life.
I've had many attractive men approach me about my relationship status and show a genuine interest in me, but each time I've turned them down as I feel it is my duty to show my partner what it is to be in a faithful relationship.

So my question to you, is it normal users, is:
Is it normal to hate your partner but still want to be with them?

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Based on 49 votes (44 yes)
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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You still have a grudge against him. Forgiveness is part of loving. Think about it

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Woahh!! I went through a relationship like that. I want you to take this to heart, since I'm the after math of that kind of relationship. After I got out of the relationship, I realized I actually hated him. A lot. The whole "Love and hate him" thing was denial... He broke trust barriers and caused you to dislike him. I don't know about you, but after my bf did stuff like that I didn't feel I could trust him anymore, and always felt wary and on my toes. I couldn't stop thinking.. I wouldn't do this to you, why would you do it to me? You don't have to follow my advice, but I recommend you move on..

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  • forever_anon
    11 years ago

    Yes, it happens, especially if the person broke your trust or hurt you deeply, as it seems your boyfriend has done. It takes time to heal from these experiences. Try to remember that this happened in the past. You probably aren't the same person that you were three years ago, and I bet he isn't, either. Both of you have probably grown from this experience. But if you think you can't forgive him, and you feel negatively towards him more often than you feel loving, you may want to reconsider the relationship.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes it happens.

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