Is it normal to love a guy i never met?

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Hey everyone!! Here's my story.
I had a breakup three months ago. I was sexually abused by my ex. He dumped me after using me. I was depressed and really guilty to make my parents upset. After one month I met a guy online. We became friends. I shared everything about my past, my family and everything with him and he did that too. He is really a sweet guy. He supported me. I planned to commit suicide once but he saved me (we never met). We became close friends. He start liking me. I start liking him too. He proposed me. I said "yes". I fell for him. I love him. He loves me too. I am an Indian girl. My parents don't support me. I know they love me but they feel as how can I trust someone I never met. We chat for two months and now since last 3 days I am not texting him fir the sake of my parents. I don't want to hurt them. He said me he will come and marry me. I trust him. I read his text msgs today. He's so upset and missing me. I am missing him so much. Today I felt that I am seriously in love with. I am in love with a person I never met. Is it normal?

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Based on 35 votes (21 yes)
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  • Crow
    7 years ago

    "I was depressed and really guilty to make my parents upset."

    What?

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    Normal, but be careful - sometimes the person you think you know online is different to the person you end up meeting.

    I had a relationship with a beautiful Russian woman I met online a few years ago. We spoke via email etc for 6 months, and really formed a close bond. Eventually, we decided to meet, which we did in Thailand (it's a nightmare trying to get a visa for Russia as an Australian and vice versa). Yes, she was the same physical person (very attractive, I still lust after her) but Long story short, she was mentally unstable, and very volatile.

    If I had any idea she was so unstable and volatile I'd never have met her. To be honest, prior to meeting her I would have happily packed up and moved to Russia to be with her permanently. Thankfully, we decided we should actually meet first, and thankfully we did before I permanently moved to the other side of the world!

    Just saying, be careful. Be very careful. You can't really tell everything about a person until you are actually with them for an extended period.

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    • Tempest-au
      7 years ago

      P.S. - she still wants me, In spite of the fact I am now effectively a cripple. Go figure.

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  • Gummy_Jr2
    7 years ago

    You've never met him but you're going to marry him??? Wtf??

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    • Tempest-au
      7 years ago

      In some cultures (India being one) the Couple often don't even get a say in it, it's all pre-arranged by the parents, often while the prospective bride and groom are still children. The OP could actually be seen as being very "untraditional" simply by making the choice herself.

      Having someone arrange your marriage for you sounds really stupid to me too, but apparently it works at least as well as any other method.

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  • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
    7 years ago

    Ummm I'm trying to think of three words more appropriate than "wake up fool". Run like hell? Are you insane? Anything other than Happily Ever After.

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  • Curiousme1981
    7 years ago

    Take a chance baby live your life!! Love comes in many forms different for everyone!!

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    You may feel different after you meet him. Maybe he's not want you think he is

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  • Cool_Girl_24
    7 years ago

    It's normal, but this happened to me. I texted him and he asked me to marry him online, he said he never even loved me after we broke up...it was really upsetting and I almost committed suicide, so just keep that in mind. Maybe make sure he's not a 70 year old too. That's a good idea.

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    • Tempest-au
      7 years ago

      It's sad that some people get joy out of playing with the emotions of others. Hope your life is brighter now.

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  • Curima
    7 years ago

    I've fallen in love no less than three times with people I've never met. Each time, it totally wouldn't have worked in real life - but each time, my heart wanted it to anyway.

    Dramatic action is all well and good, but I'd say that if you two were willing to take the plunge, why not try just getting together and meeting first? Dating a bit? It certainly couldn't be harder than what you were already considering. Also, it would erase any lingering doubts about not having "met", might assuage your parents, and is infinitely more reasonable than jumping straight from friends to spouses with no in-between time.

    That said, yes, it's very normal to WANT to do it, and to love him despite having never seen his face. It's also normal for such things to lead to disaster. Follow your heart, but do so smartly.

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