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I'm 32 years old and have been with many women in my life but have never had many long term relationships. The problem is that after a while I lose sexual interest in the person and it doesn't matter how attractive she is. I fear that I'll either spend the rest of my life alone or will end up settling to an unhappy marriage, is this normal?
Sex is kind of like fire. It requires fuel. You can either build a fire that is designed to burn for a long time in a controlled fashion and not go out easily or can throw everything at it quickly and it will grow bigger and bigger but will require more and more fuel. The latter is what most people do these days. The problem is there isn't enough fuel and it is not satisfying anyway. Ask any body that gets all the chicks and sex and they still be looking for something that satisfies. I would take a look at what you really want in life and find a person that you can build a strong relationship with that is not based on sex. And here's the kicker: even that will not satisfy long term, we all have a God shaped hole... But a strong committed relationship is a good start and way more satisfying than the endless parade of nobodies. It brings meaning to sex. Sex should bring you together and make you stronger but it can't do that if you dont really know each other.
So you don't have lack of sexual drive.
Just lack of sexual interest in the same person.
Do you remember when you were around 18 and you really wanted to have sex with some girl? And then when you did you didn't want her anymore?
ie One of the most insulting things a girl can experience of some guy whore.
When you are in a mature responsible relationship you grow together, if your sexual drive for her drops you introduce sex toys, porn movies, role playing, or whatever, plus you buy Viagra.
What you DON'T do is suddenly fall out of love because there's no sex drive by YOU only anymore. If that was the case for every relationship, EVERY single wife in the world would get a divorce after the first year.
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30's: the age of realizing you're aging and searching for real-life contenment, IMHO. Maybe you're fed up with the same experiences you've encountered?
Talk to your next sexual partner and don't have sex with them. If you don't want to die alone then don't have sex with them and get to know them first.
Maybe you just have a short attention span. And for some guys it's all about the hunt. Once they make the kill, it's time for the next conquest. Personally, I'll do just about anything to keep things interesting because dating is a freaking pain in the ass in my book. All the getting-to-know-you bullshit...ughh.