Is it normal to lose interest in life itself?

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I'm not having much fun. I feel like my mind is going numb. I have very little happiness in my life and whenever I try to make a positive change I just wonder "What's the use?" I have a great family and great friends but they don't bring me any real joy. I think about my future and I can no longer view it with the optimism I once did. I'm not suicidal or anything I just feel really weak emotionally.
My first girlfriend, whom I truly loved, broke up with me several months ago, leaving me in this state. Are these feelings par the course for breakups?

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Based on 80 votes (62 yes)
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  • lia123
    14 years ago

    i know from personal experience that talking to a professional and seeing a psychiatrist for an antidepressant medication can go a long way. i don't know where you live, but alexian brothers in schaumberg, IL is known for their work in psychology. but any hospital can help you get the help you need. you are just going through a rough time, but things will get better. life can be rough but i promise, your time will come. it can be as simple as a chemical imbalance in your brain (which causes depression) which can be fixed with medication. hang in there and take care. best of luck :)

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  • _hell
    14 years ago

    Perfectly normal, you are apathetic, which is a symptom of depression...
    I find myself in the same state for a couple of years, but Ive learned how to make good use of this lethargy.

    Despite having been recommended to me taking some medicaments, I never did. I like that non-feeling feeling, makes life a lot easier for me...

    I could emerge in my thoughts. I have a million epiphanies.

    Feelings got ups and downs. There's no happiness without sadness, and there's no sadness without happiness. Everything has 2 sides. But getting over sadness its always so hard... And the truly happy moments seem always to last so little...

    And everytime when youre on the top of that "wave" (feelings) and you fall, it hurts so much. How could I get rid of the pain? Relinquishing my happiness. Letting go the good things, I also left the bad ones.

    well, just a small portion of my thoughts...

    ...maybe you make a good use.

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  • germanstallion123
    13 years ago

    Drugs! But seriously, find a club, team, activity, hobby.. Anything that interests you.. I know it sounds corny, but it's corny for a reason!

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  • marley56
    13 years ago

    Dude, story of my LIFE!! I'm right there with you! I don't have any wisdom to share cause I'm still feeling the same way... I just try not to lose hope you know? Best of luck

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  • DES
    13 years ago

    Therpy is expensive bubble is fun

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  • dminor
    14 years ago

    I've felt that way quite often.
    I've got a boyfriend that I care about and good friends and a future that doesn't seem bleak. But I feel just like.. Blank, how you described. And hopeless towards everything irrationally. Or maybe it's too rationally.
    I dunno, and I dunno if it's normal!

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago

    I wouldn't know if this usually happens after a break-up since I've had the good fortune to have never experienced one, however I'm going to hazard a guess and say that it all depends on the person.

    The way you're feeling is a common symptom of depression. It would makes sense that the break-up has triggered this. I hope you have someone to talk to about this. Take care.

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    • CommanderMcCool
      14 years ago

      Thanks, I appreciate your advice. I'll be ok, I suspect I just need to give it time.

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  • 13thpipeline
    14 years ago

    If your feelings started after you had your break up please, don't listen to advice telling you you need hospital help or crap about "being depressed" or whatever. This is normal, and it is only a matter of time.

    This is your first break up, of course you're going to feel like this. And if you're young, it's going to feel a lot worse then it really is.

    Please trust me, just give it time, and if it was a long relationship, give it A LOT of time (when I say a long, I'm talking YEARS not months). When those thoughts come in get distracted, go out for a jog, play video games, homework, whatever. Just something you do to have fun.

    What you have is rare (loving family, friends, ect), and remind yourself that you can't throw everything you have right now away over one break up.

    Hoped that helps.

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