Is it normal to loose the ability to miss (the feeling)?

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so for the past couple of years, I realized that I don't miss people or places. I recall missing my father when he left for work when I was very young, and i remember missing friends when i changed schools (which i did alot) in my late childhood (6-12). In my teenage years, when family would move away, or even when my best friend moved, I remember feeling guilty for not missing them, and even today when something of the such occurs, I do not miss them/it. Is this normal?

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  • tampabayallstar
    14 years ago

    It is spelled lose not loose.

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  • MCA
    11 years ago

    Yes, it is normal. It may be that you built up a resistance or a wall against the hurt involved with missing someone because you changed schools often or you or others moved often.

    Until recently I use to feel the way you do and shared similar thoughts as you. However,I recently married someone shortly after meeting him. It was understood that he would be leaving the country and returning in two months. I thought no problem, I don't miss people. WRONG! I am missing him so much that it hurts and I can't wait for his return.

    The pain and hurt I have felt because he is not with me feels unbearable. This feeling has blown me away and has left me wishing that I did not miss him. Chances are that when you meet your true love and if you need to part for some reason that you will feel the emotions involved with missing someone.

    I have also experienced loss due to death and have not missed the person. I believe that it is because I have come to terms with the persons passing.

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  • Asteria
    13 years ago

    Iv'e only ever missed my first pet cat when he died:(

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  • wiip100
    13 years ago

    I GOT THIS!!!

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  • timebobbu
    13 years ago

    you prolly premeditate how itd be with them gone before they are

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I have opposite problem I miss everything. Even like plastic cups... Am I retarded?

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  • revelry
    13 years ago

    YOU ARE LUCKY. i wish i was unable to miss.

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  • roseisblue
    13 years ago

    i get like that too. my dad died on friday. and i'm like forcing myself to miss him because i just don't feel normal if i'm not crying when everyone else is.

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  • BatZion
    14 years ago

    your just a person who finds it easy to get over loss. no need to feel guilty. or maybe all of the moving as a child made you use up all your missing (if that makes sense).

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  • Lockets
    14 years ago

    I think this could be normal. Not everyone develops strong connections with things and for you, this could be as a result of many changes in your life. You learnt not to rely on people/places. Survival tactic in a way. I feel the same in a way. I have some lovely family and friends but if I never saw some of them again, I don't think I would be affected by it. It sounds strange, doesn't it?!

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    • PoisonFlowers
      14 years ago

      Yes, I agree with this. Our dependance on things/people and our emotions tend to get blunted with age.

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