Is it normal to loose all sexual feeling after having a child

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Before and during my ppregnancy I hadd an amazing sexy drive and was able to get off. Since having my chiild it is almost iimposible for me to orgasim. The only way I can get off is if I'm on top during intercourse. I can still feel it and I get pleasure fromit. But it is very frustrating to myself and my partner. It is very hard on him because he cant helpp but feel like something he is doing is wrong, which is not the case. And it is hard having such a high sex dive and never being able to cum.... its like the female version of blue balls. Sometimes it feels like I'm actually going crazy. Is t his supposed to happen? Has anyone been threw this ? Or have any sudjestions on how to help or fix it?

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  • A-Hor
    11 years ago

    I'm a human sexuality educator.

    It's quite possible that you may have lost some of your muscle strength after giving birth. The pubococcygeal muscle is the muscle you squeeze to keep yourself from peeing. It's also the muscle that activates orgasm in women. If you do "Kegel" exercises, you'll make your muscle stronger, and give you a more intense orgasm. Simply squeeze this muscle, hold it for five seconds, then relax for five seconds. Do this about 10 times for one rep. Try to do it at least 2-3 times a day for a week straight. It's the easiest workout anyone can do. You can do it sitting, standing, while having a conversation, etc. Just remember to hold and relax, so that you're controlling the muscles in effort to make them stronger. You should notice a difference in a few days, but keep doing this as much as you like. It will always intensify orgasms. Maybe ask your husband to do it as well.

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    • beautifulyMe
      11 years ago

      Thanks i will try that. If that. Doesn't work do you have any other suggestions ?

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  • IronHead
    11 years ago

    Lose.

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  • DeAmOn
    11 years ago

    One word....cunnilingus...teach him how. But also do the excercises as listed above...

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  • A-Hor
    11 years ago

    You could also try masturbating and try bringing yourself to the point of pleasure, so that "you're warmed up and ready to go" so to speak. Do this until it feels pleasurable, but do not orgasm. Then have your partner join you to finish the job. It's a bit more difficult because you would need to get the timing just right for each other, but it's absolutely do-able. And if that doesn't work either, you should talk to your doctor.

    The kegel exercises, however, usually do the trick. Regardless of sex drives, building the pubococcygeal muscles will intensify orgasm, for both men and women.

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  • SEWnanist23
    11 years ago

    You're headed for the nursing home.

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