Is it normal to look depressed all of the time?

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... as if it was a normal look? i have this conflict throughout life that everyone gets the wrong impression of me, even at first glance. the most common impression they get, is the idea (almost said fact) that i look depressed. if not that, then it's stressed, if not that, its tired of being present at the moment. i never knew why friends, family, even acquaintances treated me like i was dangerous, or bored, down and so on, until looking in the mirror day by day and realizing their viewpoint. realizing their viewpoint is what gets me though. in highschool, this girl said i look emo just by looking at me - this one kid said i'm gonna be a serial killer when i grow up - this other kid said it look like i just came out of jail - my own dad said it looks like i lost my bestfriend - people think i hate life or have a problem from first impression, first glance.. and i think that's just unfair. i have an excellent sense of humor, i love to laugh and make people laugh, but my sense of humor has been narrowing as i'm growing, and i kinda need some advice, idk why i came here, but i'm giving it a go for privacy reasons.

i don't want anybody to show sympathy for me, let me handle that. just tell me your opinions. tell me how would you treat someone like me. what is your reaction. tell me everything except showing sympathy, thanks.

btw, i'm 18, 6 months later from graduation, looking for a job.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    I don't know what you can do besides deal with it. When someone says you look depressed just smile and say nah, that's just my face. I think it odd that people say all these things to you to begin with. But maybe it will get better in the years to come. You are only 18 and a lot of people your age say stupid things. As for your dad saying something, you could always blame him for contributing to your looks.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    All I can tell you is people gave me the same crap, rightly so, in and out of high school. And it's because I simply looked glum. I still laughed a lot sometimes and had good fun but I know I wasn't THAT happy. I guess it starts with just trying to look happier for the sake of fooling everyone else. If you don't want to give that impression. Maybe smile when you see someone you know, and look pleased to be there, whether its class or a social gathering or what have you. I don't know what I'm still working on it myself.

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  • Derpinism
    10 years ago

    just be yourself but try to find a job where you are around people so that you could at least try to practice looking like everyone else

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  • Shnaz
    10 years ago

    If you became a serial killer, the outside would match the inside.

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  • Aurora93
    10 years ago

    Oh god people keep saying this to me too, it pisses me off. Nobody goes around smiling 24/7, you'd look like a right weirdo if you did.

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    • Shackleford96
      10 years ago

      Lol, have you ever seen the tv show Parks and Recreation?

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      • Aurora93
        10 years ago

        No why, do they all go round with inane grins on their faces?

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        • Shackleford96
          10 years ago

          There is this character on that show that smiles incessantly. It made me think of him.

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  • chumpfump
    10 years ago

    thank you guys for giving some valuable advice. i have to say, smiling doesn't always work though. i can't just smile at nothing; something worth smiling at must happen. for example, if i walk into a classroom and take a look at everyone, there's nothing to smile about, so if i force myself to smile, it'll be recognized as a fake smile. either way, the collective thought of the classroom would be that i look depressed.

    i guess i can keep trying to reinforce the fact that i'm not depressed. but again, this is my default look. i'm 18 and still haven't accepted how i look and how the universe treats me.

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    • Shackleford96
      10 years ago

      Try to think of something funny. It will make people wonder what you're smiling about. Laugh even, if you feel the urge. I do know what you mean about fake smiling though, it's difficult to crack a smile sometimes.

      Just today, I was getting ready to exit out of a parking lot and I was showing out a bit. I gassed it pretty hard in my vehicle and got a few looks from some people. It was funny to me because I felt their judgements, but it didn't bother me. I normally don't act out like that either (to top it off my truck is quite old and loud too). I grinned at them mischievously and kept on driving. What a thrilling feeling, not giving a shit! >:)

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    Try and smile more, show other people that you are truly happy. Relax, be yourself, and try not to dwell so much on what other people say or think of you. People in highschool can be real dicks sometimes and you obviously know that you aren't all those things they say about you. Try to stand up for yourself a bit next time. Don't get defensive and angry when someone says something negative about you like that, but just smile and say 'nah, i'm not depressed, i'm quite alright actually.'

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  • chumpfump
    10 years ago

    you guys dont understand. living with this is pretty hard. i mustve came to the wrong site.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Give it a day or two and you'll likely get more comments. Your post has only been up for everyone to see for a couple of hours yet. Short4Words gave you some good advice.

      I'm sure it is hard for you. Your appearance doesn't appear to be reflecting who you truly are, that would be tough. Have you done anything to change that? Would you even want to make changes? Would you be able to accept the impression you give others if you didn't want to change?

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    I've been told I look pissed off most of the time.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Really? I always think you look happy because you're always smiling in my mind.

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      • dirtybirdy
        10 years ago

        I do laugh and smile quite a bit. Maybe I'm alone when I do :/ hehe but now that I think about it, its been a while since I've been told I look mad.

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  • chumpfump
    10 years ago

    its not that easy.

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