Is it normal to look at people in public, provoking them

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When I'm walking outside I can't shake the feeling people are always looking at me, so I always try to spot people doing so... Only provoking them to look at me, but sometimes I just can't bring it up to keep eye-contact feeling dominated... I asked around for the answer and some folks are saying that if I make eye contact I look intimidating telling me they are scared of me. Then why do I feel like I am the one who's scared?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I'm the exact same way. I think it has to do with the way you walk and present yourself. If you are confident and force yourself to act casually, people seem to not stare as much. If you are with a friend, people tend not to stare as much. If you've having a bad day and you walk by yourself, it's like people are scared of you, or even angry at you, they glare and sometimes even refuse to walk around you, just walking to you and scoffing when you don't get out of the way, even though you are politely walking on the right with plenty of space for them to walk around.
    I do think it has to do a lot with how you look. For me, personally, there is also an aspect of race. I am an Arab, and there is a large Jewish population where I live. I get a lot of nasty and fearful looks. I get some old ladies grabbing their purses. I get a lot of tongue clicking and scoffs. One time I was working, cleaning tables, and there were some Jewish customers at some other table, and they all saw me, stopped talking, and stared at me as I walked past, and wouldn't stop staring until I finished and left for the back room. One time I was delivering pizzas to a Jewish Community Center, and two boys were having fun running to the door, and they saw me, looked horrified, and ran back to their dad and hid behind him, and he walked to the door, glaring at me, not turning his back on me.
    I don't know what you are, but if you're not white, there's a good chance race plays a part in why people stare at you.
    You might be an introvert, and people see you as submissive and they want to feed off you. I've had that feeling before. Sometimes you just gotta put up an imaginary bubble around you and go about your business, and when people decide to mess with you, be as polite and apologetic as possible and kill 'em with kindness.
    Also, if you're good looking, it might be that people are staring at you, in jealousy or admiration. LUCKY YOU

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  • boys-are-toys
    13 years ago

    maybe because at first you are the one feeling like they are looking at you and thats why you look at them? it feels just the same for other people

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