Is it normal to look at other men

Is it normal that I look at other men while I am in a happy committed relationship. I love my partner and I am extremely physically attracted to him and we have a great sex life. However he has pulled me up on me looking at other men while we are out and about occasionally. I agree with him, I do look, but I don't feel anything towards the men I look at even if they are very attractive. I don't have any urges to flirt or have any sexual desires towards them... I just look, it's almost a "reflex" where I don't know I am doing it until after I have done it (or when my partner has pulled me up on it). I don't know why I do it, I certainly don't think I drool or ogle at them, it's just a glance without much thought. It's like a habit. I am not an drooler I am not interested in male strip shows, and I don't subscribe to any magazines or social pages with naked men. I love my partner and I look at him with admiration and attraction all the time.

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Based on 44 votes (36 yes)
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Comments ( 8 )
  • Avant-Garde

    Your boyfriend sounds insecure. He probably thinks that you will cheat on him. Quell his fears or wear tinted glasses so he can't tell what you are doing.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    No harm in looking. I think your boyfriend is just being a bit insecure.

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  • Diver2

    Look, but don't touch. Has your boyfriend ever sucked a cock. I think he is a fucking queer. Does he ask to borrow your panties? Is his dick limp most of the time? Have you ever known him to date a man? Answer these questions while looking at me...

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  • Wkdcon

    Fuck it. You're in a relationship, you haven't gone blind. There are some fine looking guys around. Look don't touch. Your bf needs to get over it (and I bet he does too, just you don't notice).

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  • Tarkio

    Three second rule.

    Men or women should not look at other people with sexual attraction when they are with their boyfriend/girlfriend PERIOD. It is a matter of respect and kindness.

    If you "glance" it should not be longer than 3 seconds. Otherwise it is oggling, and you are trying to show the person you are staring at that you are interested. If you or your partner are oggling other people, you or your partner are not happy, and are settling for each other.

    You need to look at men when you are alone or with friends, not when you are with your partner!!!!

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  • Why is it that if you don't want your partner looking at other people, you're suddenly insecure. I'm not insecure, but it doesn't mean I would approve of my boyfriend looking at other girls. I'm not sure whether your "looking" is the innapropriate kind or not, but it doesn't sound like it. Its confusing though because usually people who look, do it because they find the person they're looking at physically appealing. It doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong because you say you feel no attraction or anything towards who you're looking at, so maybe you're just staring into space and they kind of catch your eye? Do you look at women too? Maybe you just find that any moving object catches your eye? It doesn't sound like you're in the wrong but if you were looking because you found other men attractive, that would be wrong.

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  • Tommythecat.

    We all look but we usually have more tact than to make it noticeable you dippy doodle. It's quite rude to do it blatantly.

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  • thegypsysailor

    I have always enjoyed looking at gals. I find it quite enjoyable and a whole lot of fun. I am also an unabashed flirt, but I have never, nor would I ever, cheat on my partner.
    The best of all possible worlds is to have a good enough relationship one's your lover that we can actually discuss the people (gals and guys) we see, say at the mall or market, with each other.

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