Is it normal to live your entire life for everyone else?

This isn't normal but I may have some good advice for you.
If you care about helping other people you should know that you cannot do things for people without helping yourself first and that includes satisfying yourself. If you don't do this you will eventually not be able to do anything at all anymore.
Also anyone who talks down to you is not worthy of pleasing. You should only please those who are respectful and appericiative.
Nobody truly respects someone who does whatever their told even if they act like it.
The people who can help others the most are happy sucessful people because they have the capibility to make the biggest impact, not that they often do since most people choose selfishness.
My other advise is to quit caring so much about what other people think of you and to focus more on what you think of you and how to think the best of yourself because in the end you are all you can be certain you will always have.

It isn't normal. However, you need to take some agency in your own choices; unless they hogtie you or hold you at gunpoint, other people cannot force you into a life you didn't choose. If you let people walk on you long enough, then yes, they're going to assume you're a doormat and be upset when you won't let them wipe their feet on you any more.

It's obvious that you're miserable, so what steps are you taking to change that? Are you seeking some help for the depression and rage you seem to feel? Are you getting away from the people who have used you? Are you getting therapy to find out why you were willing to sacrifice your hopes, dreams and identity for other people?

I wish you luck, but I think you may need some help changing things. Talk to a therapist, a loving friend, a parent or someone else you can trust and start finding ways to crawl out of the hole. It doesn't matter if you dug it or someone else dug it; the important thing is that you find ways to climb out of it.

It's Hard being in those situations especially as you don't always realise just how demanding they are as you become desensitised to it, it only really starts to show when there are things you want to do more then usual and they prevent it, as time goes by they become more demanding and have less regard to how you feel as they really start to walk all over you. If you walk away from that situation be very careful as I walked away from one and straight into another and when I finally walked away from that I spent nearly all my time alone and feeling useless, I started getting anxiety being alone or going out in public without their support (as in I wasn't there with them). you don't tend to realise how dependent you are of them until you walk away. so just be careful what ever you do and try and keep social with other people what ever you do so you aren't trapped relying on only them.

You talk like everybody owes you a living.

Nobody owes you nothing you owe youself.

Living for others is not good... but it is more normal than most people believe. Since you seem to be sincere, I guess you like helping people but you don't like the fact that you have to give up stuff to do so.

Maybe you should find a career that allows you to be helpful and happy at the same time. Have you thought about teaching?

No, it's not because the life has been given for YOU to live it for yourself and not for somebody else. Help people,be a good man but always love yourself and do what ia good for you first of all.Never feel scared to start it from the bottom. Life is beautiful when you know how to live it and when you're not scared to take the risk to be happy.

i want to be happy.....but i don't want to be selfish or be accused of selfishness.....i may be unhappy but i pride myself with how giving i am......i don't want to turn into someone who only thinks of themselves and tells everyone to go to hell. (that is another problem of mine....i only see things in black and white....to me, the only solution is to either be 1000% selfless or the exact opposite, 1000% selfish.....there is nothing in between)

That is not normal to this extent you described, but somewhere in the middle of doing everything for yourself and this is. Work on changing this little by little, till you get a balance

get treatment. therapy maybe?
but seriously what you write here sounds like depression.
don't listen to people who say "cheer up!" etc. try to face and understand your problems so that you have a chance of fixing them, so that they don't come back at you over and over. therapy will help you with that.

(own experience: I had depression for over 13 years then started going to therapy for about 3 years. last year was the first depressionless year in my memory. and now I've more or less stopped going to therapy and things are a lot better, not ideal but alot better.)

what the hell are you babbling about?