Is it normal to live alone your whole life?

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I'm not even an adult yet, but I find it impossible to create relationships with people, except for a few friends, but when I'm with them I joke and laugh a lot, and I feel weird and awkward like I'm not normal and it makes me wanna die in a hole. I also feel a bit like a third wheel.

I skipped school a lot because I wasn't feeling okay (mentally), and when I'm home I just sleep and that makes me feel better and safe. But I think if I will skip a few weeks more I will get exmatriculated and thus I will have no job and stuff. My family is annoying me and I just wanna grow up and go away and live in England or Netherlands (my English is kinda okay and Dutch doesn't seem too hard to learn, I knew a few words...). But then I'm thinking about my mom who doesn't even get out from the house because she's afraid of panic attacks and that she will die, and idk if she can live alone. Like, get some counseling, will ya? I actually hate her because she's forcing religion on me, the religion that made her so sick and isolated from people (Christianity). Okay, now no offence to Christians, but don't force your religion on me, thank you. So yeah, it feels guilty to leave her here in this shitty country, but then here's her brother and her mom, I'm sure they can help her more than me, but idk what will happen after they die...

I feel really bad when I'm around people because everyone seems smarter than me, and I'm just the stupid and awkward kid who never been in a relationship and doesn't listen to cool music (like rock) and doesn't really watch movies (they bore me) and that makes me terribly sad, like I'm an alien. I'm incredibly disconnected emotionally, I got to the point where people seem like robots or monkeys and everything is so unreal, I think I'm just losing my mind, but whatever.

Should I try to become more social or just live alone? How do I become a "normal" person? Is it normal to live alone?

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Based on 19 votes (12 yes)
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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    Those last two paragraphs are similar to how I feel. The only thing a person can do is to try to be more social.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      And what if I refuse to?

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Before you map out your whole life, how about you wait until you are at least an adult. Children are pretty poor judges of what life is all about. You don't have any idea of what lies ahead.
        You can, of course, give up and dig a deep hole and bury yourself in it all alone, or you can choose not to give up.
        But your comment above, "And what if I refuse to?", pretty much says it all to me. You have given up and don't care two shits what anyone else says.
        Why did you even bother to post if this is your attitude?

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        • VinnyB
          9 years ago

          I was going to comment, but it was basically this. As soon as I read the first line of the post, I knew this is where it was going. Not surprised either by the OP's response. My God, if I could go back and see to my 20 year old self, I would slap the crap out of him.

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          • thegypsysailor
            9 years ago

            Here, here!

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          I'm not a child anymore, I'm finishing school next year. I'm just saying that having a social life is not the only option, and I might refuse having one. None of you, however, has given me any advice on how to become more social (or at least survive going outside), and the whole purpose of my post was to reach for help. Yes, I'm obviously weak and I'm giving up easily, I can't even manage to go to school all because of my weak attitude towards life and people's opinions. How am I supposed to get friends if even strangers poke fun of me? Like I am lucky if I go outside for 5 minutes and noone asks me about my gender or tells me I'm tall or ugly.
          But I do appreciate your help and support guys. I'm sorry if I'm a bit hard to talk to, I'm just... it's hard to change.

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          • thegypsysailor
            9 years ago

            I often find that when I think that 'strangers poke fun of me' it's usually in my mind. Not to be rude, but honestly, strangers really aren't thinking about you. They have plenty of their own shit on their minds.
            Anyway, why do you give a crap what anyone thinks about you? Anyone who might think badly about someone they just met, really isn't worth your time and consideration in life.
            If you want to have a social life, then you MUST hang out with people you have something in common with. You must NOT dress in such a way that you automatically turn people off (do you dress goth?). Your school mates are only there because they live in a particular area, as you do, and are of a similar age; nothing more. Why would you expect to have much in common with them?
            If you want to have a social life, then you have to go out and get one. Nobody's going to knock on your bedroom door and ask you to come out and play.
            Join a club or an activity you enjoy; hiking, biking, swimming, fishing, sailing, sky diving, rock climbing, or even sewing; it doesn't matter as long as YOU enjoy it. There will be others in the group who enjoy it too, so there's your in.
            It is really easy, if you set your mind to it.
            Of course, there's nothing wrong with living alone, if, and it's a huge if; you aren't lonely. Being lonely really sucks.
            I assure you that if you do get out and make a few friends, you will never regret it. With interpersonal relationships comes pain, and wonderful joy; both of which are part of life and should be relished, not hidden from.
            Good luck.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              Um yeah, tnx, I try. However, I live in a foreign country, and there's only one school for my nationality in the town. Only one of my friends is from my school, the others are from different schools, various ages... There aren't clubs and all that shit, it's a small town (except from THOSE clubs where you go to dance and drink, smoke, drug yourself and fuck people).
              People do poke fun of me. They are usually in groups and they don't even care if my family is there. They yell at me loudly that I look weird or I'm ugly. I don't even know them. It's not my fault I'm tall! I'm only 176cm, that's not even tall... I have short hair now, and I always wear black or blue/green, darker colours. Sometimes even my own family discriminates me for being how I am and tell me to dress in tighter clothes. I told my friend I want to wear pink (cuz I'm a girl) and she said she would bully me (not sure if she joked or not O_O)
              I don't mind being lonely, but that way my thoughts start to get wilder and louder, and I feel like I'm losing my mind. I usually talk about it on Yahoo Answers, but those people aren't really helpful. All they say is "Have confidence, trust yourself, good luck", and aren't as helpful as you guys (so glad I found this site!) I really appreciate your help, and I know that the change depends on me, but there aren't any possibilities to know new people, except if I'm going out with my friends, but they also have this tiny group of theirs and don't consider me as a close friend (it was this girl's bday and she didn't even invite me... it was a month ago, but I'm hoping I will still give her my present one day).
              I never had a bff. I have this girl but she's really nosy, she always writes me text messages (she just sent one right now) and it's good to have someone to care about you, but I need to see people, yknow. I need a break from her, she's kinda close minded also and makes me feel bad when I'm with her. Okay, now I know I sound like an ungrateful little bitch, but I'd rather be alone than with the wrong people, if you get what I mean. I just wish that at least I could go outside, even if alone, but I'm so scared....

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  • natdrum
    9 years ago

    Oh man, it's like I'm reading my own autobiography..
    Sucks to be antisocial in a world that is so keen on forcing everyone to be socially connected to everyone else 24/7...

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    No it's not normal to be a hermit, but if you're comfortable living that life then no amount of persuasion contrary to your beliefs can shake your perpetuating self-affirming misery.

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  • Holzman_67
    9 years ago

    We all come of age at some point. In the meantime just find things that make you happy, if they aren't social things, that's fine. Travel. Be open to new experiences.

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  • harddrystickysocks
    9 years ago

    Dutch is easy to learn??? Lol.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well, seems easy to me.

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