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Is it normal to like to sleep with another guy (best friend)? I do this a lot and were not gay. We both have girlfriends, but the cuddling is great. We usually just text and smoke and chill until like 3 am and then fall asleep.
If you both have girlfriends, then what the fuck are you doing sleeping with each other? Weird.
Your question made me smile! Okay let me help you before you get distracted by what the bigots or uneducated have to say. Homosexuals usually identify as people who are romantically, sexually and affectionately attracted to the same sex. In reality however only one of those types of attraction biologically defines a homosexual.
Let's go through this together:
Sexually: You seem pretty confident that you and your friend aren't bisexual. Both of you have girlfriends and it seems like you're not attracted to men, at least as much as you're aware. Do you like hugging him because he's a man, or because he's your best friend? I'm pretty sure you already know the answer to that.
Romantically: A lot of people have romantic attraction to the same sex, meaning holding hands, hugging or maybe kissing. While you might have a crush, you're not turned on by his anatomy. Do you think about him often in a romantic way? Does it make you blush or feel giddy? If so you may be a bi-romantic.
Affectionately: This is what I'm going for, I don't think either of you are gay. Human beings love to love, and show affection including physical displays. This person is your closest friend and you love him for that, and you like to be close. If the hugging feels great it's because you enjoy giving and receiving that affectionate physical display of love which is your friendship. You felt as if this might not be normal, but the real issue is that strong affectionate emotions towards someone of the same sex is confused with the whole three types of homosexual love.
The problem here is society. Views towards men especially. Not only are men made to not show deep emotions but they're especially not supposed to share them with each other. There have been straight men who love each other more than themselves, and would die for each other in history. Keep in mind the culture you're living in. You enjoy the mutual hugging because humans like to feel physical displays of love, yours being affectionate.
I believe this is normal, but unusual because of how men are conditioned by modern society views. Unless what I said about sexual or romantic attraction has struck a chord with you? Your affectionate feelings might be strong enough that you might wonder about romantic feelings, but that's normal as well.
Do what you want and be happy.
Regardless to the wonderful written message above I disagree. I feel as a male or female to actually perfect your man/female best friend to cuddle over your opisite sex person you in a relationship with and the fact that it is a secret give your answer. Cuddling come with desire and fulfillment a sense of comfort in out soul. The question is why your girl don't meet that need?
If its your culture religious beliefs that keep you from embracing this so be it. My advice is to be honest and authentic with the people in your life you allow to share that area of relationship with.