Is it normal: to like someone whilst being in love with another?

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I have been with my bf for 6 years and in that time never had a major attraction to anyone else. Last night was a works night out and I started talking to a guy from work seeing him in a whole new light. I've been texting him ever since, I would never act upon it as I love my bf but the other guy makes me hot and I feel guilty. Please help IIN???!!

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  • MeiwakuKira
    12 years ago

    Heh, I'm in the same boat as you. I have a boyfriend but I am also checking out another. Then again, my guy's been kinda...aggrivating, so my choice is easy (I just want to break it to him to his face). Anyway, if you love your boyfriend, then stay with him. Easier said than done, I know, but staying with him with all that love in the air'll pay off in the long run.
    Six year, relationship, you say? Congrats, but, as I'm sure you know, love dwindles away. It happens like a gust of wind for some, but for others it's like chipping pebbles off of Mount Everest. Since you've both remained faithful for SIX YEARS I'm pretty sure that the love is still there. The guy at work must be something like a change than your guy, which is like taking an adventure. Adventures are fun, but don't get bit by anything toxic, you know? This guy is something of a toxin to your relationship (no offense to him, of course), so be wary with your adventure.
    Anyway, I'd say this is normal. Everyone likes new things, new experiences, and the like. This guy at work could just be a phase (Happened to me too! Ended awfully when I broke up with my guy to go out with him) and you'll get over it in time. But if he still makes you hot a LONG time after whenever you met him, it's possible that you two'd make a great couple. But until then, I say stay with your guy. I kinda can't talk since I'm doing the EXACT opposite, but I'm just weird like that. :D

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    • disco_diva
      12 years ago

      Hey thanks for the advice it's great:) its just recently I feel like my boyfriend has been taking total advantage of me. Him and his friend wrecked my house the other night whilst drinking kept me awake till 7am. I was left to clean the mess took me 5 hours, then today my gran an dad both got rushed into hospital whilst I was away he never even washed the dishes or walked our dog. So when the other guy texts me and shows me appreciation it's great. I love my boyfriend to bits but as u say love will only go so far. I'm fed up with the arguing about it and it's really getting me down :( x

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  • richmstyga$$$$$$$
    12 years ago

    There is no need that you should feel guilty ,it sounds like your heart is saying the other guy but your mind says your boyfriend!i will tell you from my personal experience it is normal i had a boyfriend once and i was still in love with this guy and i still am :)

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