Is it normal to like him but not want to be with him?

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Ok this is a complicated and long story. Just giving you a heads up!

So My bff of 3 or 4 years recently told me how he's liked me for a while and asked me out. I wasn't sure what to say because I did like him back but once he said he liked me I wasn't so sure I liked him anymore. I told him I'd think about it.

So somehow we ended up making out and he thought it was "magical and too good to be true" (his exact words). But I felt so awkward and it was weird to be kissing my best friend. I wanted everything to go back to normal when we were just friends but he still really likes me and wants me to "get used to it."

So I tried to "get used to it" and we've been flirting and kissing since then, but I always have to stop it because it's just too awkward. 

I really want to tell him that this needs to stop but I don't want to lose him as a friend.

Oh and before all this happened I started to like someone else and wanted to ask him out because he likes me too, but all of this with my friend got in the way. It sounds really bad but I still like the other guy. Now I really need HELP! :(
What should I do??

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  • Ms.Caffinated
    12 years ago

    Ooh.. This sounds bad o.O .. Unless he is a good sport (men never are in these situations) you might end up losing a friend over it. Start with little hints like, 'this is awkward..' ' i don't really feel right kissing you... Your like my brother' oh, hell et the hint, deny him kissing, don't spend so much time with him an once he startsgetting the memo, just tell him, "i don't think this you and me thing is working out so well.. Can we just act like nothing between us happened? I miss you, my friend you." hopefully once you tell him that he'll understand and hopefully find someone new :) that could possibly be vary terrible advice but thats just what i'd do

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  • yotaisgame1
    12 years ago

    Im going through this right now except im the guy. Been friends with this girl for about 9 months. were very close. long story short i really like her. told her, she eventually said she likes me but isnt ready to commit to me because of past things. She freaks me out that she doesnt like me but just doesnt want to loose me. If she does tell me she just wants to be friends it would probably be best for me to leave the situation all together. Im already hurting as is waiting for her to be ready and i want to be with her every moment of every day. You very well could end up loosing your friend.

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  • Junel
    12 years ago

    Really bad situation,im in it presently.You like him, he likes you.He wants to be with you but you dont think it can work though you haven't tried.You cant bring yourself to tell him no because you still want him in your life.Seriously i think its normal since you aren't the only one its happening to.But i dont have any advice because i also dont know what to do about it and i just keep postponing dates and avoiding any time alone with him giving very lame excuses perhaps friends here can help us out

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  • ccjigsaw
    12 years ago

    Complicated. I can understand this sitution a little bit, I've had a friend who liked me and I had to say no. I never let it get that far though. Maybe say "Because your my friend, I tried to give this a chance. I really wanted this to work out, but I can't change how I feel. Your a great friend, but I don't think I can see you as anything else." ?? That's what I'd do. It shows him that I tried, and I still want ot be friends, but no more makeouts and such

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I agree! Explain it feels almost incestuous as he is like a brother to you. A brother is a deep love as opposed to a little crush. He won't be happy for a while but if you are true friends he should get over it soon.

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