Is it normal to like another guy whilst already in a relationship?

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i feel horrible for admitting this but i have noticed it for a while now and i am in a relationship... but.... i have feelings for other people. like i have crushes on other people and i feel like asking them out... i don't know what this means. i am in a relationship, my boyfriend might be a bit of a bad kisser and a bit of a nerd but that's why i love him, and i do love him so i don't know why i develop these feelings for other people. i feel horrible but i want to ask other people out but i don't want to break up with my boyfriend because i honestly do love him loads... someone help???...

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Based on 17 votes (8 yes)
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  • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
    8 years ago

    It's normal to look around. Whether you decide to act on attraction is another thing entirely. If by 'asking someone out' your intention is to have sex with another guy then you need to be honest with yourself and decide what you are going to do when it happens. Because it will. You may love your current boyfriend but you have a right to love yourself too and pursue what you truly want or need. Bad kissing is a deal breaker for me too.

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    This is totally normal to feel tempted or attracted to other people when you're in a relationship. There are just a lot of attractive people in the world. But you should have a bit of a better more special bond with the person you're dating, however it's also true that most people can bond with anyone they have feelings for. I'm sorry if my post doesn't help at all, but this just seems to be human nature.

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  • NathanScot
    8 years ago

    Hey love.Forget the comments from the two cunts above.Just because you love some1 doesn't mean you are immune from having feelings for someine else..Anyone in a relationship can attest that every once in a while they bump into someone they feel a connection with other than their bf/gf.

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    • Tealights
      8 years ago

      The problem is, she wants to date other people. Maybe she's polyamorous or something, but who knows. Until she can figure herself out, she really shouldn't be dating this guy.

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  • GrayHulk99
    8 years ago

    i cheat on all my gfs eventually.

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    You might be polyamorous and if that is the case, you should not be in a normal relationship because it wont be satisfying enough for you. You´d be better of with someone who has the same mindset as you.

    However, it might also be that you are a bit bored of your relationship but not ready to admit that to yourself yet.

    To me there´s a HUGE difference between acknowledging other people´s beauty whilst in a relationship (Really normal, I do it and my boyfriend do it) and to actually want to ask them out.

    If you have been together for a long time it´s natural to grow apart and if this is your first long term relationship it´s normal to not see the signs when the relationship is dying.

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    Some thing I've been learning a little bit about is polyamory and it sounds like you may be the kind of person that can like more than one other person that way I don't think its all that strange that people can be that way cos if you can like 1 person why not 2 or more? I never thought about much until just recent but monogamy isn't going to be for everyone maybe you just need to find the people that feel the same way maybe your boyfriend would be open minded about it?

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    This means you're not as attracted to him as you thought.

    A friend of mine has the same problem as you do with relationships, and the best thing she did was end it with the guy she was dating and remained single while having casual sex with those she immediately found attractive. Maybe this could work for you too.

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