Is it normal to like anohter guy while living with my "boyfriend"?

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I'M 19 years old and about a year and a half ago I started to date this guy, that for now I will call Bob. We moved in together a few month after I got out of high school. Even before we moved in together things was not going well. We would always fight about nothing but that did not bother me because we would always make-up right after. Once we did move in thing got worse, which I figured they would and we would just work through it. But that did not happen.
I was wanting to end the relationship but the day I was going to my mother called me and told me she needed a place to live. I'm a full time student and do not make enough to live off of and my mother was unemployed. Bob was nearly the only income. So for my family and I, I decided to stay with Bob.
I told him the truth. I told him I wanted to brake up but I need his money. He understood and asked if we could try to work things out till my family and I found a new place, and I said yes. But now I can not stand to be near him. He acts like he owns me. I did try so hard to make it work because I did still love him but I can't when he acts like this.
I have been talking to another guy but I don't feel bad for it. I have NOT had sex with this man but we do talk about it and plan to be with each other. Is it normal not to feel bad if I liking another man?. . . Also if you would like to give me some device on what to do, that would be nice.

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  • Temperancebooth
    12 years ago

    Of course it's normal. You aren't having a very good time with the man you are currently with and you are seeking love somewhere else :)

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  • @=)'s
    12 years ago

    Thank you everyone, I have tooken your edvice and now focusing on only school and work. I have stopped romantically talking to the other guy and my mother and I have picked up more hours at work. In a month we should be able to live on our own (barely). Mother will not be able to pay off her debts off but I'm sure we can find a way eventually.
    Thanks again for your commits. =)

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  • blaster
    12 years ago

    Pretty tricky spot , I know how it feels , timing, seems it never comes around sometimes.
    Pretty uncool of him to pull the old emotional bs on ya but both sides will do what they can to hold onto it if they have to i guess so.
    It's easy not to feel guilt when a persons made you resentful.
    Depends how rocky it has been and whether it's all gone now but if you did love him and it's only his acting that's damaged your feelings , if you were interested you could talk to him , tell him what it's doing to you, scrap the new guy and keep trying, give him the cahnce to change.
    If your not , gonna have to start focusing on finances and getting outa there but as if you wouldn't know that already though I know. Gonna be messy, wouldn't be anyone else you could shack up with would there ?
    As far as liking someone else at the same time - haaaaa , tell me about it. Bad habit of mine that one.

    Best of luck

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  • tbiM20
    12 years ago

    I agree el NeuroNeptunian, you can't expect him to not develop some animosity.

    The best thing you could possibly do is to focus on your school and on your financial independence. I got a mix of scholarships in school, worked only in the summer, & by taking out student loans as well my bf & I managed to pay for school for the 2 of us and have about $12k to live off & rent, which was plenty for my location. So, apply for every scholarship you can find, and find a cheap apartment for you & your mom. Only AFTER that should you worry about romance, bc just think how awkward it could get if you do it in reverse order.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal not to feel bad about liking another man, but the thing is, it may turn out that you don't want to be with him as well. Not to mention that you told the guy that was your boyfriend previously that you're only with him for the money. I don't understand how he was just to continue being happy with you after that.

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