Is it normal to like a guy whose 15 years older than me?

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So I have this really huge crush on a guy whose 15 years older than me. I really feel I like him...and when he's around I just get tingles in my stomach. I enjoy the way he talks, walks, acts, and laughs. He treats me with respect and he teaches me things I've never known before. I'm 17 and hes 32...and we met when I was 16, he didn't touch me at all and I think he was playing it smart, but now that I am 17 him and I had sexual contact, and we did kiss and have sex etc...
I had sex before with only ONE guy my age. My other 2 boyfriends were older than me by 5 or 6 years.
and I just enjoyed sex with the 32 year old much more than with my past boyfriends.

is this weird?
why do i like older men? all of my friends call me sick, and they say hes a pedofile but I don't think of it like that, I think he's a great guy and I love being with him but at the end of the day I'm crying because I do believe that theres something wrong with me!

what do you guys think..?

Yes. 12
No. 2
What the hell are you thinking? 14
you are out of your mind! 2
If that's your preference. 10
age is but a number 10
It's totally normal 9
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  • blaster
    12 years ago

    Of course there's nothing wrong with you we like or love whoever pushes the buttons there's no golden rule.
    Him a pedo , bs , 15 yrs isn't that much and your old enough , people are just stupid , better get use to that one and just take it for granted. If it was some other situation they'd just find something else to say - that's what people especially friends do.
    Don't go marrying him though coz we just don't know ourselves well enough at your age to make that sort of decision especially if his been round the block but you haven't yet.

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    • VentingEquinox
      12 years ago

      Thanks so much!!! I appreciate your advice! :-)

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  • SirDaedalus
    12 years ago

    If that floats your boat, then it is okay for you. The real issue is that some people will find him to be a scumbag. Hope he has the fortitude to cope with those people.

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    • VentingEquinox
      12 years ago

      I hope so too...

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  • dfsq
    12 years ago

    Yes I prefer older guys too

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  • Satchmo
    12 years ago

    This is a tough one for you as the 17 year old I would say its totally normal for him I don't think it is. However in most states the age of consent is 16 there are only a few states where it is 18 I don't think it's weird that he would be attracted to you. H pursuing a relationship is odd though but I would say go for it

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    It's normal, but you might want to keep your relationship on the down-low until your older, and, statistically I think it was that men prefer younger women because they seem more fertile, and women prefer older men because they seem strong and protecting.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    it depends on where you live.

    if you're below the age of consent then your lover is a criminal. and very likely taking advantage of you. cos hey what kid your age wouldn't be swept off his or her feet by all the attention and sexuality an adult can bring?

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    • VentingEquinox
      12 years ago

      It's legal in New York, for a 17 year old.
      But my friends still consider it "rape"
      and I do agree that adults can often manipulate a childs mind with the "attention and sexuality" that they bring

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        12 years ago

        if you're the OP then it's legal.
        not necessarily recommended though considering the fact that the adult can manipulate you.

        i'd suggest thinking hard about what you really want. even considering taking a 6 month 'break' to decide this.

        cos if this is really true love then the adult won't begrudge you time to consider

        and if the adult seems likely to wander off if you ask for this time... then that adult wasn't looking to stay long anyway

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  • bassjetter
    12 years ago

    i dated a guy who was one day from being 20 years older than me.
    my ex husband, ex boyfriend and current boyfriend are all 14 years older than me. i didn't intend for this to happen, it just did. when u get older age is just a number..as long as u r happy!

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  • hokisgurl
    12 years ago

    Congrats your the next courtney stodden. Preferebly id be iffy you being 17 and hes 32 illegal in my state but i believe age is just a number but hey their are people who habe beennyour age with much older men I just hope hes not asking you to keep this a secret cus that is bad on many levels just watch out. If you met online id still be iffy aswell but just becareful

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