Is it normal to like a girl much younger than you?

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There's this girl that I've sort of developed feelings for recently. Our families have been friends for a long time, but I've never really thought of her as like any thing other than a little sister until recently. She's going through puberty right now, and has gotten very pretty lately. She was always really mature, nice, and smart and really the type of girl that I like, but there's a big age gap between us- I'm 20 and she's 12. I feel really really bad for feeling about her that way, but I can't stop thinking about her lately.

To be honest I'm just a regular guy, most people would say I'm decently attractive, and pretty easy going, but I've honestly never had a girlfriend. I've always been too busy or just never meet the right girl. Throughout middle school and high school many of the girls I knew were really mean and would often tease,spread rumors ,etc... Now in college its still similar- many of the girls I meet are pretty shallow. It's always either the girls I meet have a good personality but not physically attractive to me (guess that makes me shallow too) or vice versa. I know nothing would ever happen between me and her, and she probably doesn't feel the same way, but I still can't help but imagine what it would have been like if I were her age going to the same school as her, or just taking her somewhere on a date like to the movies or carnival or something. I'm not sure, I usually don't feel this way about people and feel really bad that I feel this way about her but I can't stop thinking about her.

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Based on 16 votes (6 yes)

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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

A twelve year age difference is one thing, but being in entirely different life stages, because you are an adult and she is a child is something entirely different.

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Jacob_Zuma_783

7 years ago

Dude she's 12. That's way too young. Period.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  I can wait for her like the other comments said.
  
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  - Jacob_Zuma_783
    
    7 years ago
    
    Well assuming that 16-ish is a more acceptable age, that's 4 years of waiting. I don't think most guys at the prime of their powers would be willing or able to wait that long.
    
    Also what if it still doesn't work out? Maybe she will move on by then or the attraction will be gone. That's 4 years wasted. Btw not trying to discourage you, just being realistic.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      I understand yes that is something to consider, thanks for a reasonable response.
      
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durridkbro

7 years ago

IMO I 'think' the age gap might be a problem. I dunno, you both are at different stages in life and the things you like or think about might be contrasting. But if you want to go for her that's your decision.

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arthurtheaardvark99

7 years ago

it's normal to like younger girls but considering her age she is probably still really immature compared to you. the issue isn't the age difference but that she isn't even a teenager yet. you two are at totally separate stages in life. when she's 16 and you're 24, she will probably have a lot more in common with you. and gradually the difference in age will start to appear less and less important over time, until it won't matter at all. my advice is to keep in contact with her and earn her trust and respect, and maybe someday that friendship can become something more.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Thanks for the advice, appreciate it! Too many trolls judging,etc...
  
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Murun

7 years ago

If you can wait the necessary number of years then no problem.

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i_am_to_normal

7 years ago

Do you if she has been fucking someone else?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Idk what you are asking
  
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ViolentKitty

7 years ago

Wow, what the fuck is wrong with the people commenting on here?

HUGE, HUGE, HUGE NOOOOOOOOOOOOO. If you pursued ANYTHING with this CHILD, you would forever be labeled a PEDOPHILE.

Stick to 18+ unless you want to get stuck behind bars.

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sandnigga

7 years ago

oh no your good! :) Go for her! ;)

Theres a girl Im going for and she is about 5 to 6 years apart

Theres nothing wrong with dating her.

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- Ellenna
  
  7 years ago
  
  WRONG - at 12 she's still a child and should be left alone until she matures
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Someone on yahoo answers said that she is just a child and that the age gap was too big, and that I should ask her mom how she would feel about me dating her 12 yr old daughter... I just don't see her as a child, she's going through puberty and is really mature for her age...
  
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Anonymous Post Author

7 years ago

I also kind of agree with what this other user said about being attracted to younger girls - "I feel like after a certain age that females start to generally become less idealistic and daydreaming types and that towards the end of college many of them are just too pragmatic and "realistic", and not as charming, adventurous, naive, innocent, sweet as they typically used to be when younger. And I think that's a shame because I find these qualities very attractive. "

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- bleach_baby
  
  7 years ago
  
  You mean they become, like, real people as opposed to sweet little girls that you can do what you want with?
  
  Mate, if you really have this much in common with a child you are probably the immature one, not her. It sounds to me like you don't have much experience with women and it's this lack of experience and fear which is leading you towards a potentially very dangerous situation.
  
  If you value this child's naivete and don't want to destroy it, stay away from her.
  
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  - Anonymous Post Author
    
    7 years ago
    
    Trust me I would never go down that hole. Just to clarify I said she was mature, not immature. But yeah I guess you could say I'm somewhat immature I won't deny it. I'm a good student and everything but I do understand I'm somewhat immature.
    
    I just really care about her and yes I really do value her naivete, the other guy arthur was saying that perhaps slowly over time the difference in age would matter less and that maybe one day after a few years that friendship could become something more.
    
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Anonymous Post Author

7 years ago

We have a lot of stuff in common and pretty similar personalities. Her parents also like me; they think I'm a good role model,etc... I know society views this as wrong (someone already made a chris hansen joke) and I would never do anything to her, but like I said shes mature and has a great personality and I just really felt this way about her recently. I think all the mean/slutty girls in middle/high school really disillusioned me when it came to dating, etc....

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