Is it normal to like a girl but struggle finding things to talk about?

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I've known this girl for a few years, but a couple of months ago I started liking her and now have really strong feelings for her, I've found out off friends that she feels the same, but I get really nervous around her now and I struggle finding things to talk about, I hope I'm not messing it up, because I really like her, what should I do???

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  • Faceless
    13 years ago

    Just ask her if the rag in your pocket smells like chloroform.

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  • Margabe
    13 years ago

    Oh hun, that's perfectly normal. I think it's really cute, and if you mess up or say something stupid, don't sweat it!! Usually girls can tell when a guy is nervous around them. For some girls, this makes them think the guy is really sweet. If you do mess up just let her know that your really nervous, and you don't want to mess up anything. Guaranteed she will sympathize, and she might even like you more.

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  • nanimeow
    13 years ago

    Be yourself and take your time. You don't want to ruin something that might be a good thing. Develop a relationship. Inside jokes are great. Go out with other people and her at first until you feel comfortable.

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  • americanhoney
    13 years ago

    Yeah, do the "hobby lure". Works every time, playaaaa. For shiz.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    It is normal because you love her!

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  • ILuv2Hoop
    13 years ago

    Well basically jus try to find sumthin u got in common and work frum there ! wat i usually do with anybody i wanna talk to is jus say sumthin like "I cant wait for this wkend i got a basketball game" or sumthin like tht . &thn jus be like "You play any sports?" r wateva . im a girl &i kno tht when most girls like a boy, it can make their whole day if u jus say Hey or mess with thm .

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago

    The easiest thing to do is what I call "hobby lure".

    First you state a hobby you like. Then you ask what hobbies they like. Hopefully they don't hold out and give you at least one. Then you pick one, aim for one you know least of, and say "really? What is (insert hobby)" and well that what I do. It works for me most of the time.

    But I still don't succeed due to other reasons.

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    • ultimafate
      12 years ago

      Bc u have a small weiner :)

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  • dongwhan
    11 years ago

    You should at very least muster up the nerve to tell her that you're a dork and that should give her a great sence of pity for you while at the same time let her know that your not not talking to her because you dont like her,but rather that you cant cause you're nervous and then ask her if she wants to see your junk.

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  • theAnomilyGuy
    13 years ago

    Faceless- I didn't see anyone laugh about the chloraform, but I sure did! You think if someone were to actually use that as a joke if the girl would laugh, or be peramently scarred??

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Dude?Umm one conversation is... Tell her how you feel. And you know she feels the same way. (;

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  • CountryRoads
    13 years ago

    Sounds purely physical or psychological to me...you really like someone when your conversations flow so naturally and smoothly that it's effortless. If you don't have that...then why do you like her?

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  • JR(562)
    13 years ago

    That same thing happened to me and things didn't work out between me and her but I'm still cool with her

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  • katx5
    13 years ago

    ii have the same problem you do me and my boyfriiend dont have nothing to talk about we been going Out for 1year&2monthss ii guess ya talked about alOt then

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  • lab20011
    13 years ago

    Just talk about normal stuff I am a girl just talk about life

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    quiet is nice too

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Awh go with the flow. And be yourself or she'll think wft is his problem

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  • RuLisnyn2Me?
    13 years ago

    Hobby lure??? Don't listen to those guys because if you have known her for the time you say you have you may or may not know alot about her already? It's normal to feel this way but there is nothing wrong with just asking questions over coffee stay away from hobbies that's gay!! Interests, views, beliefs life experiences where they are from school shit stuff like that and from there just let your heart and instincts guide you! If she likes you back it will be a shot for shot tit for tat conversation that will last longer than they can serve coffee!! Be interested in her and be genuine in your approach she will love your interested in who she is and how she feels about life! ;) good luck

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