Is it normal to like a bestfriend but don't want to be a couple

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i have been best friends with this girl (I am male) for about 2-3 years, I have started to like her more than a friend for about 1 year. Now me, her and another male friend was talking about relationships. The girl I like says that she would not be able to go out with me or my male friend because of how good friends we are. I started thinking that as well. So now I agree with her but I still like her as more than a friend IIN? And advice is welcomed.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    She probably has an idea that you may have feelings for her, and casually mentioned that she doesn't date friends, as a gentle way to let you know she doesn't think of you in "that way." Best to push those thoughts aside and just think of her as a good friend.

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  • theaverageatheist
    11 years ago

    hahaha I'm in the same as you

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  • Thatweirdguy
    12 years ago

    I thank everyone so far, even the last one. I don't agree with your opinion but it is your opinion. I think I might just leave it as friends.

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    It is called FUCK BUDDIES!

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  • nicknackss
    12 years ago

    My best friend and I have been friends for about 4 years and we've like each other in various times. We both know how the other person feels all the time but we never seem to be able to do anything about it. When we're acting like friends 'm always thinking about how amazing it would be to be with and then when things start progressing into a romantic setting I start feeling weird because he's my best friend and I wish we could go back. I explained this to him and he feels the exact same way. I don't have any advice for you because frankly these situations can go either way really. But I just wanted to let you know; It's completely normal.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I am a female. The same exact thing happened to me & my good guy friend of 3 years (minus the additional guy friend) it was last winter break when he got a phone & we literally would text/talk 24/7. Without knowing I ha developed feelings for him but I only found this out when he got his fone taken away & I hadnt talked to him for days & I thought 'why do I crave to talk to him so much' when I realized I liked him. When he got his fine back I eventually told him & he said he felt the same way, except we were so good of friend we didn't want anything to ruin the friendship so we left it as that. When winter break was over we hung out at school, it was awkward to act like friends again knowing how we felt but hormones took control & we kissed. It messed things up bad & we both felt extremely weird after that... We eventually stopped taking & faded our friendship so til this day we dont talk. My advice is leave it as friends if you don't want to ruin your good friendship & look for another girl because there are plenty if fish in the sea (: ps . Sorry I talk A LOT :P

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    Hell yeah. You're friends of course you're gonna have feelings. And that's how great relationships start; through freindships. You build a trust bond and become more and more comfortable around them.

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